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1 Read the passage and answer the questions that follow:James J. Lunch is author of The Broken Heart: The Medical Consequences of Lonelinessand a leading specialist in psychosomatic medicine. He writes movingly about thedependence we all have on ‘dialogues of love’. These are the verbal and non-verbalexchanges that bring us close to other people, and close to a feeling of being understoodand cherished by those people. When these dialogues are disrupted and eroded,significant increases in disease and death follow, with obvious social costs as well asgreat personal loss.Keeping your capacity for loving dialogue alive demands a willingness to be generous,flexible and tolerant. “An individual can only receive to the extent that he gives,” Lunchpoints out, ‘and, in that sense, dialogue is a mirror of his personality.When you engage with another person, whether this is at work, within a love relationship,with a member of your family of origin or a neighbour, you rarely explicitly promise tobe generous. Yet the presence of generosity within that relationship (or dialogue), or itsabsence, can utterly determine the quality and longevity of the connection.Generosity usually involves listening and ‘tuning in’, rather than imposing, and awillingness to enter into the life of another human being as an honoured, respectful guest,not as an invader or coloniser. This can be most difficult of all between members of thesame family where unconscious ‘debts’ may tangle with equally unconscious ‘requests’that often emerge in ways destined to get you almost any result but the one you want.1a What is a ‘Dialogues of love’? 21b Describe what happens when for some reason such a dialogue fails? 21c How are these dialogues of love kept alive? 21d What is the key factor which determines the quality and longevity of a relationship. 21e Why is maintaining generosity most difficult in a family relationship. 21f Pick out words from the text which mean the same as the following: 10i unhappiness felt by somebody because they lack friendsii the result of a situationiii physical illness which occurs because the patient is worried or anxiousiv prevented from proceeding easilyv gradually destroyedvi willing to change and adaptvii long existence of somethingviii forcing one’s views on othersix enter by forcex difficult to unravel or smooth out

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What is a ‘Dialogues of love’? Ans:These are the verbal and non-verbalexchanges that bring us close to other people, and close to a feeling of being understoodand cherished by those people. 21b Describe what happens when for some reason such a dialogue fails? Ans:When these dialogues are disrupted and eroded,significant increases in disease and death follow, with obvious social costs as well asgreat personal loss. 21c How are these dialogues of love kept alive? Ans:Keeping your capacity for loving dialogue alive demands a willingness to be generous,flexible and tolerant. 21d What is the key factor which determines the quality and longevity of a relationship. Ans:When you engage with another person, whether this is at work, within a love relationship,with a member of your family of origin or a neighbour, you rarely explicitly promise tobe generous. Yet the presence of generosity within that relationship (or dialogue), or itsabsence, can utterly determine the quality and longevity of the connection. 21e Why is maintaining generosity most difficult in a family relationship. Ans:Generosity usually involves listening and ‘tuning in’, rather than imposing, and awillingness to enter into the life of another human being as an honoured, respectful guest,not as an invader or coloniser. This can be most difficult of all between members of thesame family where unconscious ‘debts’ may tangle with equally unconscious ‘requests’that often emerge in ways destined to get you almost any result but the one you want...