Question

can people change?
Or they ignore us
Whyy​

Answer 1

Answer:

People do change. I can confidently say that I changed a lot in few years. Change is good, too. You can't stay the same old immature person.

Whether the change is good or bad, that's what matters. People change as well as their thinking.

If some specific person was your friend and now is not the same and is ignoring you, forget about them. Maybe, they were just faking their friendship. They don't care about you, you don't care about them.

BUT you should understand that the person might be facing some problems and that the person wanted to talk to you but could not.

Possible reasons why people ignore you:

1. Talking much more or much less than others.
2. You're not their type$\mathtt{.}$
3. Being way too high or low energy.
4. Talking about stuff others aren't interested in.

Last but not least, if you don't want them to ignore you, you will have to change, too. Change is essential.

By making small changes, you can make people notice you, respect you and want to talk to you. Improve.

Answer 2

Answer:

1. You might be quiet or not know what to say

Here’s the problem with being quiet: People usually don’t understand that you’re quiet because you’re shy or don’t know what to say (or because you’re an overthinker, like me)

Instead, they think that you’re quiet because you don’t want to talk to them. So, they think they’ll do you a service by leaving you alone.

Here’s another issue: If people try talking to you but you only give short replies, you aren’t “rewarding them” for making an effort and talking to you. They might even feel rejected, and don’t want to try again.

SOLUTION:

If you know that you’re quiet, over-think situations, or are shy, I recommend that you work on your conversation skills or shyness FIRST. If you do, your problems with being ignored will likely self-solve.

I also recommend my guide on how to know what to say. You might also want to read my guide on how to stop being uncomfortable in social settings.

2. You might try too hard and come off as needy

This was one of the reasons people ignored me: I tried too hard to make friends, and people picked up on that. I’ve experienced this later in life from the other side: When someone seems too eager to talk to me, I just get a feeling that they are a bit desperate. That makes me less motivated to talk to them.