Debate on topic are arranged marriage are better than love marriage against
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So, You basically have 3 Options - Stay as a bachelor, Find the love of your life and go for love marriage, and, finally, trust your parents in hope that they will find a best match for you i.e. going for an arranged marriage.
According to me, whether you want to become a bachelor for life, or get yourself engaged (love or arranged) - its totally upto you, upto your upbringing i.e.whether you have brought up in rural areas or urban areas (while this impacts your marriage decision a lot in terms of "Log kya Kahenge?") , what are your skills and education level, are you introvert or extrovert?, and your complete lifestyle. They really impact the MARRIAGE STUFF AT FIRST.
What else? Like everyone has said - go for love as there is better understanding or go for arranged as there are no divorce cases because your family with support you. Go for love as, since, you know your partner better, so, he will take care of you for lifetime and go for arranged, as no matter what the situation your family will always be there for you. Bla bla bla.
Hey Folks! "There are all standarized and so-old-sayings. Please come out of that". You will get love, support, care and dowry-free life from both marriages - - if your partner is good and if his family has a good modern thinking. I love doing "Love Marriages" because I love doing it and I have no particular reason of doing it. But, but, I am of the other opinion here as well. In case, I don't find a partner of my choice (who is good by heart, appearance doesn't matter too much | who will respect me and my parents | who will support me through every walks of life, IN RETURN, I ALSO HAVE TO MAKE SURE OF THIS). "Always try to have a Give and Take Attitude in your life", I will go for "Arranged Marriage" - who knows whom you were unable to find can be found by your Parents itself! May be, your parents can help you find the person of your type, taste and choice as they know you well so, they may know, who can fit you well.
So, In one aspect, Marriages are just matter of "CHOICES" and on other aspect, they are all about "THINKING" which you pals have provided in the discussion box.
Rest, there is no halt to this discussion of MARRIAGE. It will be complex as you will make it. So, KEEP IT SIMPLE, STUPID.
– Both individuals know each other already and mutually decide to spend the whole life with each other.
– Couple is responsible for its choice and onus of the blame in future lies on the couple only and nobody else.
– Couple is aware of each other’s likes and dislikes. Therefore, they get along well.
– Such couples can help eradicate social evils like dowry with their mutual consent because they have the independence to take such decisions at their own level.
– Extravagant spending too, can be curbed through understanding between the couple.
Arranged marriage
– Arranged marriage is not a contract between two individuals alone but a confluence of two families.
– Two families involved in arranged marriages evaluate each other and marriages happen only when the two families are compatible with each other.
– Because there are more people involved in arranged marriage, the conflict between the couple will be effectively resolved or mitigated.
– In arranged marriages, couple is guided by parents whereas in love marriages couple may not be in a position to assess the future complexities in life that may arise.
Conclusion
Both – the love and the arranged marriages – have their merits as well as demerits and marriage is a decision of lifetime. Though families are involved in most of the marriages, yet it’s the couple who has to live together for lifetime. So, the decision to choose life partner should be left to the individuals. Ultimately, no one can certify the best way for a perfect marriage because just like life, marriages too are full of uncertainties.
And, remember that the success rate of marriage doesn’t depend upon whether it was arranged or not but rather on how the two people understand each other.