How can one lead a happy life without any expectations?
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Answer:
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Explanation:
Become aware of expectations. ...
Stop wanting to be right. ...
Have no expectations of others. ...
Don't compare yourself with others. ...
Focus on process goals instead of outcome goals. ...
Be open to changes and possibilities. ...
Allow others to manage their expectations of you.
Explanation:
1. Become aware of expectations.
Most of us don’t recognize our expectations because expectations are subtle and come in many forms. They disguise themselves as goals, visions, beliefs, assumptions, and social norms. Every time, you think someone should do something or something should happen, that is an expectation.
2. Stop wanting to be right.
I’m not saying that people shouldn’t be on time, or your husband shouldn’t help you out with your housework. But when you believe these are the right things to do and people should do it, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
3. Have no expectations of others.
Recently, someone called me an idiot in the comment section of my blog. He said I’m lazy and lack focus. If it were the old me, I would have felt very hurt by these comments. But now, I’m more peaceful about it because I have no expectations of others.
4. Don’t compare yourself with others.
When you compare yourself with others, you expect more from yourself. Someone has a car, so you must have a car too. If someone has a goal to retire by the age of 50, then you also want to retire by the age of 50.
5. Focus on process goals instead of outcome goals.
“Set goals but know that the arriving is not all that important.” from Stillness Speaks by Eckhart Tolle.
There are two types of goals. One which focuses on the outcome and the other focuses on the process.
If you are a writer, outcome goals would be to finish your book or your blog post by a certain date. At that date, you want to see the book or your blog post complete. It’s fine having outcome goals, but people tend to attach expectations to their outcome goals.
6. Be open to changes and possibilities.
Never be fixated on the outcome, your plan, your goals and etc. Anytime you are fixated on something or someone, expectations are bound to be there. Because you limit yourself when you can’t live without something or someone.
Plans often fail.
7. Allow others to manage their expectations of you.
You may have no expectations for other people or situations. But other people may have expectations of you.