How do you react when your parents are strict with you?
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It is very discouraging sometimes to have strict parents.
I am an indian girl , 21 years of age . My father is very strict . I have always wanted to study MBA but my father doesn’t let me. He wants me to get a government job. He forces me to write various exams like SSC , GATE which would get me a job immediately after my B.Tech . My dream is to study MBA . And thus I fought with him to pay for my CAT ( entrance exam for MBA) coaching . I even wrote a scholarship test and got to join a coaching centre for free coaching based on my score in the scholarship test. He initially acted like everything is fine but then after three months into my cooaching he started abusing me for choosing MBA coaching and not preparing for other exams of his wish. Finally I dropped out of coaching and gave in to him and started preparing for exams of his wish . And now i cry everyday for giving up my dream.
There are a lot of other things for which he scolds me. Whenever I ask him money for threading eyebrows , he starts ranting about how I am diverting my attention towards beauty. Girls around the world spend thousands of rupees for makeup and beauty and on parlours. I dont indulge in any of them. I just need threading for eyebrows because my eyebrows tend to grow very fast and bushy and they look very awkward without threading. In my father’s opinion , threading my eyebrows is a big diversion for me.
I study almost everyday and all day because I want to get out of his controlling ways . But even after noticing that I study all day , he scolds me if I go for just a stroll on terrace with my friend saying that I am wasting time. Going out with friends is a far off dream for me.
Once I was coming back from college and college is just ten minutes away from my home on scooty or bike. I usually go to college by walk. That day I was very tired because we had a fest at college and asked him to come pick me because I am in no position to walk . He denied saying that I am seeking luxuries . :(
He criticises me for almost everything I do. If I speak up against anything he says, I will be labelled as a girl with no values who speaks up against father , father who pays for my food , father who is raising me . My mother is also afraid to speak up against him even after knowing all the trauma I go through because of his controlling nature.
He bought me a phone after my B.tech and he thinks he has given me a luxury by buying me phone and often rants about how I am unhappy with him even though he is giving me all the luxuries like TV , mobile phone.
He doesnt understand that I dont need the materialistic things as a validation for his love towards me. It’s his words and actions that should reciprocate his love. There has never been a moment where he talked to me and asked me what I want . He has never spoken to me and asked me how I am studying or how I feel about anything . If anything he does , he criticises me for my each and every action .
The other day I was having a very bad headache and I asked my mom to prepare coffee for me since I couldnt make one for myself because of headache. My mother said that she don’t want to give me coffee . Well I instead applied balm and tied a dupatta around my forehead which will relieve me from headache and slept . My mom asked me to have dinner but I denied saying that I am having headache and that I will eat after my headache is gone. My father labelled me as a egoist for not having dinner . In his opinion I denied dinner just because my mom said she wouldnt make me coffee. I tried explaining him that I cant have dinner right now just because i am having headache and not because my ego hurt. He is not in a mood to listen to me like always and made a big issue out of it. There are a lot of other small things like these. He doesn’t understand me. And doesn’t listen to me when i try to explain. I am hoping for the day that my father understands me and realises that all I need is his love .