How to be more open minded with avoidant personality?
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If you are close to an avoidant personality and want to help them then I would suggest that avoidant personalities resist change. You might find hostility if you push too much for change.
You can go to therapy but they do not like the process. They do not like to be real, authentic or vulnerable. I am not sure why but they hate being vulnerable. They resist being vulnerable, open or personal. If they can benefit from therapy then great. The pattern must not be totally deep rooted.
If they live with someone who can confront the avoidance but provide very high levels of support and love, then change can happen. But they invest most of their resources into defence against love, exposure or criticism. They are highly skilled at keeping up appearances - the surface.
Make sure that living with the Avoidant is not draining you because sometimes they can be energy vampires. They suck life out of you but do not choose to have life themselves.
Do not marry an avoidant because for them marriage is surface, a pretence, a cover. They can go through the motions but so could a robot. It is so like the Stepford Wives story for avoidant women.
A difficult task. Take care of yourself.
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Jennifer Knapp Wilkinson
Jennifer Knapp Wilkinson, I have AvPD, MDD, Anxiety, ADHD
Answered Oct 13, 2016 · Author has 332 answers and 4.4m answer views
Speaking as someone with AvPD, the ultimate truth is that unless they want to get help there is not much you can do.
You can encourage them into seeking therapy.
You can try to be their friend.
That is about it. AvPD is an ingrained personality trait.
We avoid because we have learned not to trust people.
We avoid because the anxiety is almost unbearable.
We avoid because feel we do not measure up to other people's expectations.
We avoid because we do not want to deal with other people's problems or our own problems.
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If you are close to an avoidant personality and want to help them then I would suggest that avoidant personalities resist change. You might find hostility if you push too much for change
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