How to meet psychological needs of children?
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What parent doesn’t want their children to be well-adjusted, happy and able to accomplish what they want in life? The truth is that many parents don’t realize that their children have some very basic psychological needs that, if not met, may affect their potential to learn and achieve later in life.
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
Before considering the higher order psychological needs of children it is important to preface the discussion with a general understanding of the basic needs of all people and how humans get their needs met.
Abraham Maslow, a brilliant psychologist who studied human motivation in the ’40’s and ’50’s, determined that humans have innate needs that must be met, for the most part, in a particular order.
Often represented in the shape of a pyramid, Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs model consists of five levels, ascending from basic survival needs to higher order psychological needs:
• Physiological/biological – These needs consist of things like food, water, air and sleep.
• Safety – The need for safety would include protection from the elements, the need for laws and limitations and the need for security and stability.
• Love and belonging – This requirement is fulfilled through our familial bonds, work relationships, intimate relationships and friendships.
• Esteem – Esteem needs are met through our ability to recognize competency in accomplishing tasks, mastery of our area of expertise, ability to handle responsibility, status, and prestige.
• Self-actualization – The final level of need is when a human is self-governed, self-fulfilled and realizes their full potential at a creative level.
According to Maslow, when a lower need is met a person will instinctually ascend to the next level and attempt to meet the next need in the hierarchy.
Parenting and a Child’s Higher Needs
Assuming that parents are capable of meeting the first three or four levels of needs in the above hierarchy, we have to ask the question: How, then, can we ensure that we have well-adjusted, emotionally balanced, successful children?
This brings us to self-determination theory, or SDT. SDT was introduced in the ’80’s as researchers attempted to study human motivation and the innate psychological needs relevant to reaching full human potential. Now accepted as sound theory, SDT explores intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation as well as proposing three key psychological elements in a person’s life that must be present in order to maintain motivation and prompt personal growth. Parents need to become aware of their children’s psychological need for autonomy, competence and relatedness in order to give them the best possible start in life.
Autonomy
Autonomous support and encouragement from parents and primary caregivers are crucial to a child’s personal and social development. Researchers have concluded that children behave better and more productively when they feel that their behavior originates within themselves. For example, a parent can either tell a child that they must read for thirty minutes a day or ask the child to choose which book they would like to read. In the latter example, the child is not only getting their choice of book but, more importantly, they are also making the choice to read by implication. This child will be more likely to be intrinsically motivated to read “just for fun” because they see themselves as being able to make the choice independently. This child will also experience an important side benefit of gaining self-esteem from the act of accomplishing their reading task.
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
Before considering the higher order psychological needs of children it is important to preface the discussion with a general understanding of the basic needs of all people and how humans get their needs met.
Abraham Maslow, a brilliant psychologist who studied human motivation in the ’40’s and ’50’s, determined that humans have innate needs that must be met, for the most part, in a particular order.
Often represented in the shape of a pyramid, Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs model consists of five levels, ascending from basic survival needs to higher order psychological needs:
• Physiological/biological – These needs consist of things like food, water, air and sleep.
• Safety – The need for safety would include protection from the elements, the need for laws and limitations and the need for security and stability.
• Love and belonging – This requirement is fulfilled through our familial bonds, work relationships, intimate relationships and friendships.
• Esteem – Esteem needs are met through our ability to recognize competency in accomplishing tasks, mastery of our area of expertise, ability to handle responsibility, status, and prestige.
• Self-actualization – The final level of need is when a human is self-governed, self-fulfilled and realizes their full potential at a creative level.
According to Maslow, when a lower need is met a person will instinctually ascend to the next level and attempt to meet the next need in the hierarchy.
Parenting and a Child’s Higher Needs
Assuming that parents are capable of meeting the first three or four levels of needs in the above hierarchy, we have to ask the question: How, then, can we ensure that we have well-adjusted, emotionally balanced, successful children?
This brings us to self-determination theory, or SDT. SDT was introduced in the ’80’s as researchers attempted to study human motivation and the innate psychological needs relevant to reaching full human potential. Now accepted as sound theory, SDT explores intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation as well as proposing three key psychological elements in a person’s life that must be present in order to maintain motivation and prompt personal growth. Parents need to become aware of their children’s psychological need for autonomy, competence and relatedness in order to give them the best possible start in life.
Autonomy
Autonomous support and encouragement from parents and primary caregivers are crucial to a child’s personal and social development. Researchers have concluded that children behave better and more productively when they feel that their behavior originates within themselves. For example, a parent can either tell a child that they must read for thirty minutes a day or ask the child to choose which book they would like to read. In the latter example, the child is not only getting their choice of book but, more importantly, they are also making the choice to read by implication. This child will be more likely to be intrinsically motivated to read “just for fun” because they see themselves as being able to make the choice independently. This child will also experience an important side benefit of gaining self-esteem from the act of accomplishing their reading task.
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Basics for a child's good mental health: Unconditional love from family. ...
Give children unconditional love. ...
Nurture children's confidence and self-esteem. ...
Encourage Children to Play. ...
Children Need Playmates. ...
Parents Can be Great Playmates. ...
Play for Fun. ...
TV use should be monitored.
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