Question

how to stop being overkind and stop donating our opportunities to others????

Answer 1

self

There are two ways of being nice and they both can look the same on the outside, but the motivation for each differs dramatically:

You choose to be nice because you think it’s bestYou feel compelled to be nice out of fear. A pattern of being too nice is sometimes referred to as being a pushover or doormat.

Answer 2

they are two ways being nice and they both can look the same on the outside but the motivation for each differs dramatically