how would you feel if someone close to you encountered a difficult situation in his or her life and how would you help him deal with him?
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Answer:Stay positive and help them with any practicalities if you can.
Ten years ago I lost a job, panicked a bit and accepted the first job offer that came along, which was several hours drive away. I packed my stuff up and found a room to lodge at in the new town. A good friend and former housemate of mine happened to live near the new place. He borrowed a van for the weekend, shipped my stuff down and stored most of it in his garage for a few weeks while I was trying to sort out something permanent.
Anyway, my new job turned out to be a crock. I whinged about this a lot and he patiently listened to me about it. It was a lousy time because I didn’t see any easy way out of it and we were approaching Christmas, so nowhere would be recruiting for a while.
Just after Christmas I was unexpectedly invited to a job interview in my old town. Three and a half weeks later my friend borrowed the van again and shipped all my stuff back to my old place. Phew. Following several months of worry I was back on an even keel and things were normal again.
Thing is, without his emotional and practical support I would have found those several months a lot more difficult.
A year ago we were chatting on the phone and he mentioned he and his wife were seperating. He dropped it in so casually I almost missed it and had to ask him to repeat that bit. I spouted the usual platitudes then promised to drive up shortly - well, you do that don’t you?
He had a house to move into. This meant a lot of stuff to shift and also some furniture from Ikea to assemble. I drove down, helped manhandle the contents of his geek cave into a van and then into the new house. It’s a modern UK “town house” with a very small footprint and three storeys so getting his main computer desk up the staircase was an interesting challenge, but we managed it. Then various computers and monitors were dumped on and around it, followed by some shelving units, upon which more junk was dumped. It was basically grunt work, but it needed doing and I’m big and strong. By the evening everything was in place so we unwrapped the new TV and DVD player and watched some Jason Statham films. The next day we got busy with the boxes from Ikea and got it all assembled by sundown. I then jumped in the car and drove home, ready to go to work the next morning.
That’s the sort of thing friends do - they help each other. It’s not terribly profound.
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It is an individual thing. Sometimes people want to tell you their troubles, but just want you to listen. They aren't looking for solutions. There are those times when someone wants to tell you what is going on in the hopes that you can provide several options as a potential solution. I have had both situations to occur on a number of occasions. In most cases people just need someone to listen, which is really important.
There are those times that people encounter financial difficulties and need help or perhaps they have lost a job. I never talk about things that I have done in these situations
the options that are available to ease or solve the problems. If it’s beyond our control such as Stsge IV cancer, then we will try to support the person until the end. We will go places, enjoy the favorite foods, travel if possible and be on the bed side during the hours of agony. All of us will encounter problems sooner or later. Some are manageable, and some are between life and death. It is part of our existence living in this dimension. Everyday is a gift and our life can be taken abruptly or getting terminal illnesses. This is a fact.
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First of all be there for them, mentally and physically. Remind them how special they are to you subtley . Take care of them and always make them feel like they could talk to you about any and everything. That way it won't weigh them down.