i m unable to get rid of my expenses and due to that not able to concentrate,even my family say me hopeless .how to deal with this all ? need some inspiration this time class 10 on my head ; (
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Firstly, cheer yourself up dear.Don't feel any burden on yourself. Everyone has some issues in life. We all are sailing on the same boat.
I have been in a similar situation throughout my life and am still facing it. So, I believe my experiences may prove to be helpful to you.
Since my early childhood, I have always seen financial distress in my family. My father has never been stuck to a single occupation. Even today, he does not have a permanent work. Sometimes he does a petty private job (like salesman) while at other times he opens a small shop. But somehow (through loans from here and there), he just managed to make me and my younger brother educated till class 10th in one of the best private English schools of my city. I always knew that we were in financial troubles but could not do much about it. It was in class 8 that I came to my senses and started taking home tuitions and supported my family. However, atmosphere in our home was always tensed and emotionally distressing. Thinking about next days' food, pacifying those people who had lend us money (some or the other came to us daily), thinking about my school fees etc. had become my daily routine. My father owed money to every second person I met on road. It was very disturbing as well as embarrassing when I had an important exam the next day and I had to hear cuss words from money lenders in front of my neighborhood. I remember when I had been in class 10, I spent 2- 3 hours daily taking home tuitions even during my board exams. At that time my father worked as a salesman ( at a pay of Rs. 3000 pm). My mother and younger brother sat in a temporary shop which had literally nothing to sell.
So, there had been many other problems like I mentioned above and writing each in detail would be too time consuming and will not serve the purpose of your question.
Like you, I too was unable to concentrate on my studies. I had always been a topper of my class since childhood ( and a voracious reader too), but my performance came down slowly and steadily. I started losing interest in those beautiful books. I started having performance anxiety and restlessness. Whenever I went to study, I thought of the situations that were in front of me to tackle. This had severe impact on my class performance. I failed in 1 or 2 class tests. This jolted me and I felt the need to change myself for good. Earlier, I had always been thinking that when I would clear a particular hurdle then only I would study peacefully. But practically,problems kept coming up and that ideal time,as I thought, never came. I realized that my approach was wrong. I started dividing time - time which I would devote on my studies, time which I would spend on tackling serious issues etc. I prevented myself from thinking about other thing in the time allotted for some different thing. To study peacefully especially during boards, I got permission from my neighbour to use the vacant first floor of his building for my studies( I have a single room in my house). I went there in the morning with my water bottle and returned home in the afternoon. This saved me from usual disturbances as well as from regular confrontations which I had with those black hearted money- lenders. The result- I scored 95.8 % in boards and received full fee waiver from my school for further studies. Currently, I am pursuing Bachelor's in Engineering from a good government college in Delhi.
Summarizing, I continued to follow the above approach ( 'Divide and Conquer' as I call it) and started to improve my performance as well as regaining my lost interest and self confidence to some extent. I am not saying that now I have become a perfect man. Still, sometimes it is hard to concentrate when a difficult situation creeps in. But, I ensure that I forget about those when it's time to study. I know it is very difficult to prevent the mind from getting distracted and that too when family is facing serious issues. It requires a great deal of perseverance, grit and will power to focus one's mind. Regular meditation helps a lot.
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