i want a speech on brotherhood guys
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They are 13.5 months apart.
For the most part they were rais
ed like twins. They would both learn things at the same time: skiing, swimming, riding a bike, etc., Benjamin just learned everything a year earlier than David.
Needless to say, they were very close growing up. However, we learned quite early that we actually had to teach them to get along. We had to teach them how to treat each other, how to care for each other – how to be brothers.
I don’t know about you, but if you have kids, maybe your kids were like our kids? Did you have to teach them how to be selfish? Did you have to teach them how to be impatient? Did you have to teach them how to be rude? Did you have to teach them how to be disrespectful? We didn’t.
I suspect you answered “no” to all the previous questions. For some strange reason I have no doubt that any and every parent would answer “no” to all the preceding questions. We never really had to teach our kids how to do things the wrong way, but we frequently, if not always, had to teach them how to do things the right way.
One could argue that the goal of parenting is to raise children to be healthy, well-adjusted, contributing members of society.
We realized early that if we did not intentionally teach our sons how to care for each other, how to do life together as brothers, they would not naturally grow up close to each other. Without appropriate input and guidance they could actually grow up not necessarily liking each other.
We were teaching them that brothers care for each other. Brothers love each other. Brothers stick up for each other. They only have one brother in the entire world. And, their relationship with each other will be one of the closest relationships they’ll have on this earth.
One of the ways I did this was what I called the “Brothers’ Speech”. Whenever their time together descended into some kind of emotional disagreement – AKA fight – I would give the “Brothers’ Speech”. It went something like this:
“Hold on guys – you have to stop this. Remember, you’re brothers. Brothers care for each other. Brothers love each other. Brothers don’t fight each other, they fight for each other – they stick up for each other. Brothers are kind to each other and share. Your brother will be one of the closest relationship you will have on this earth. You need to stand together.”
Ok, you may be reading this wondering why I’m talking about parenting in a leadership article. Well, leadership is a little like parenting. It can be argued that, like a parent, the goal of a leader is to equip employees to be healthy, well-adjusted, contributing members of the organization, and for the organization to be a healthy, well-adjusted, contributing member of the community.
Again, like parenting, leaders need to ensure they equip their employees with an understanding and an ability to work together in a mutually beneficial fashion to accomplish the objectives of the company.
One comment I often hear leaders make is, “I shouldn’t have to tell them this!”. I’ve heard CEOs saying this about their executive teams. I’ve heard managers say this about their front line workers. The reality is though, we do have to “tell them this”. Leaders need to clearly outline expected behaviors to their people.
Not only that, leaders need to be repetitive in regard to key messaging. Leaders need to repeatedly deliver messaging of importance to their people and to the organization. I would suggest that leaders need to develop their own “brothers’ speeches” for their employees.
A “brothers’ speech” is simply articulating “who we are”, “what we believe”, “why we believe it”, and “where we’re going in light of who we are and what we believe.”. Some people call that mission, vision and values. I call it a “brothers’ speech”.
Good leaders understand they have to repeatedly remind their people of who we are, what we believe, why we believe it, and where we are going in light of that.
And yes, you should have to tell them that.