In this poem, we read about the advice a father had for his son. If you could give advice to you younger selt, what would it be? Also, think what you would want to ask yourself, if you met your
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Answer:
3 advices
Explanation:
1. Everything happens for a reason.
Whether it's good or bad, everything comes into your life for a reason, even though at the time, something might seem to come into your life to hurt you. It is only natural to feel like things are not meant to happen this way -- people are not meant to leave, you are not meant to get rejected, accidents are not meant to happen -- and if you had done something differently, the situation might have turned out different. However, as time has passed, you realize that things were supposed to happen the way they did because one event led to another. People come into your life to teach you something. Things that seemed horrible, painful, or unfair at the time happened for a reason. And in reflection, you realize that they happened to help you become stronger.
So here's the advice I'd like to give to my younger self:
Everything happens for a reason -- understand this. Without mistakes and failure, you would have never learned. Without breakups, you would have never met someone new. Without pain, you would have never grown. Once you understand this -- really understand this -- you will know that everything comes in to serve a purpose and then it will go. You will not dwell on disappointments or view unfortunate events as regrets. But rather, you'd see them as opportunities in disguise -- only those with a sharp brain and a spiritual mind can understand the fleeting nature of events in life. So don't stress or ever think that life is unfair, because everything happens for a reason. And only time will tell.
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2. Focus on one thing at a time. You can have it all but not all at once.
It seems like we forever debate on the topic of productivity whether it's practical for us to multitask. At one point in my life, I was multitasking like an expert. I got myself involved in 3 start-ups plus my own consulting work, another writing gig, and managing this blog. I was single and had all the time in the world to myself. So why not keep myself busy right? I thought I could manage. I thought I could wait to see which startup would take off first and that would become my main focus for years to come. But I was wrong. I felt overwhelmed. I was multitasking too much. At the end of the day, I realize that none of the startups was my true dreams. This blog is my true passion. Having my own brand is my true passion. Nonetheless, the experience I had while I was at the start-ups taught me quite a few things. I learned what it's like to pitch to investors. I learned about growth hacking and a bit of coding. I met so many talented people during those times whom I'm still friends with and can ask for business advice. I don't regret my decision for taking on too many things. Although none of them succeeded because I did not focus, I learned a great deal. And I believe the process which you may feel like you have wasted time in is actually needed for you to grow and learn so that you can be ready.
So here's the advice I'd like to give to my younger self:
Focus on one thing at a time. You can have it all in life, but not all at once. And if you don't keep your focus right, you might not achieve anything.
It is not surprising that many of us are doing too many things at once. We need to make ends meet. Working on a start-up that is our dream can be an emotional burden for us in the early days. But doing three jobs at a time, rarely you will succeed at any of them. You need to put all of your energy towards it -- whatever it is you want to achieve the most in life. You have to keep your eyes on the big picture. Extra few hundred dollars might help you make ends meet but the opportunity cost might actually be worth thousands. Can you move back to your parents' to save rent for half a year? Can you sacrifice eating out to work on your dream? I got distracted several times over the past few years because every opportunity presented in front of me seemed great. They seemed interesting, seemed to potential, and seemed to align with my interests. However, opportunities will keep coming in. You have to ask yourself what exactly is it that you want to achieve for the next 10 years? What is that one main goal? Make it a priority. Focus on one thing at a time. Achieve your goal one by one. Make a to-do list and a bucketlist and work towards ticking them off ONE BY ONE.
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3. You can plan ahead but your plan will definitely change when the time comes.