Its never too late to have a happy childhood.
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When I first read the statement “It’s never too late to have a happy childhood”, I thought rather crossly, “Yeah, right!” But when I had thought about it for a while, I changed it to an enthusiastic “Yeah, right!”My little insiders represent times in my childhood that were not happy. As part of my healing process I am working on re-parenting them. That brief couple of sentences rolled off the tongue with ease, but in reality it represents five years’ hard work in counselling.At first I didn’t even want to be in the same room as my insiders. They know that I am sorry about that now. I thought they were horrid and dirty, and I didn’t want anything to do with them. I felt ashamed. I didn’t want to be connected to them. But eventually I came to understand that the shame was not mine, and that it belonged to those who had wronged me.
I realised that they are younger parts of me who got pushed out of play, and life carried on disconnected from them. They are still experiencing childhood, so in many ways it is up to me now whether they continue to re-experience trauma, or perhaps whether I can give them some happiness.
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The phrase strikes me as nonsense. However, I will explain what I think it means as I was once part of a group that said something similar.
We experience our childhood in our mind. We look at what happened, and take a long view. We see how it shaped us into the person we are. Essentially, we shift our perception from bad to necessary. We look at what our childhood taught us about life, and we feel grateful for our experiences as it made us stronger. We see good in that which was unhappy, and we rename it “happy” because we are better for having endured pain as children.
In some way, we were destined to have a tumultuous childhood to prepare ourselves for adulthood, and our spiritual path. We had to understand suffering in order to understand it when we see how familial pain hurts so many people. Our weakness becomes our strength.
I was in a group in which we would try to remember the womb and birth, We attempted to make a connection between our mother’s thoughts in conception along with her experiences. We tried to remember what she was feeling during our womb time. We saw the birth experience as traumatic, and the dysfunctionality of childhood was inevitable as our parents experienced the same wounding in perhaps an unhappy conception, incubation and birth. Since something had to go wrong or be negative in one of the areas, we were all more or less predestined to feel unhappiness as our creation experience was less than ideal.
Do I believe this now? I can see an argument for womb gestation as I taught children who had mothers who were addicted to drugs, and others who clearly did not benefit from good prenatal care. I don’t know how conscious we are when we are conceived, so we may know that we were an accident or a product of a violent sexual experience. We also may not realize that at all—it strikes me as speculation. Birth is traumatic for the child as he/she leaves the best 5 star hotel for this cold, cruel world. Does the birth trauma last into childhood? It may, but I think a positive family environment can address that negativity as children are resilient, and love will bind many wounds.
A happy childhood is relative to the experience of the child. Some kids are given everything in the world and grow up unhappy because they feel unloved. Some kids are beaten and deprived, so they grow up anxious and resentful. Some lose their parents so they have abandonment fears that are justified in experience. They often look for a parental substitute and try to recreate happiness through a surrogate experience.
I personally think that it is healthier to say: “My childhood was unhappy. I own that. However, it doesn’t mean my adulthood will repeat the pattern of my childhood. I live in awareness of my past.” Making a bad childhood happy is like painting over a completed canvas because there isn’t enough blue. Perhaps you find good in your past, but you are better off not denying your earlier life was a disaster. You do not have to be the sum of your earlier experiences.
In conclusion, I think that anyone who tells me that I can have a happy childhood when I’ve already raised a child of my own is trying to make me revise history into my own image. It isn’t true. The past is done. I only start believing a different set of experiences as positive. Eventually, any lie, even one of your own making will take hold and make you more unhappy. It is better to understand your childhood for what it was, and make the rest of your life as decent as possible.