Question

letter to your brother asking him to understand the important of helping and working with other

Answer 1

I was that guy.

I used to get good grades till 10th, and then everything just went for a toss. I started to hang out with some friends I shouldn't have, and wasted too much time doing things I shouldn't have been doing. This was partly because I was too frustrated by the restrictions that were put on me in the name of studies, and security. I wasn't usually allowed to go for movies with friends, or stay out past 7 p.m, etc. In hind-sight, I understand that they had my best interests at heart, and some of the restrictions were because I was careless, and insubordinate in the first place. Back then, I didn't see things that way, and just wanted to be a rebel.

I was never rude or disrespectful to my parents though. It just felt 'cool' to hang out with a bunch of guys who didn't care for anything, rode the latest bikes, and stuff like that. Ultimately, studies took a hit and I had to settle for a not-worth-mentioning college.

I made it to the college too, largely because of a very good friend of mine who went on to get AIR 96 at IIT-JEE. He pushed me to study, and often tried to show me the mirror. Sometimes it worked, other times it didn't. But it worked enough to get me into a decent college, if not a great one.

He also took me to Barcamps/startup-conferences (where there were many equally driven non-IITians who wanted to create something grand), and other such meets. He also took me with him when they were setting up things for TechFest. These were people determined to do something great. They had a purpose.

I had always looked up to my brother, and tried to follow his path. He had taught me to create games on C when I was in class 8. I was always among the top of my class when it came to the subject of computers. He never pushed me for grades, but asked to find something that I'm passionate about. To create something... anything, that I liked. From then on, I started programming on my own (mostly things out of the college syllabus)

I didn't get extraordinary grades in college either. I did okay, but knew enough about programming to breeze through the first campus interview I went to. I was still not satisfied doing a 9-5 job. Being a small fish in the ocean wasn't my thing. So I joined a startup after a couple of years and haven't looked back since. 

Earning capability wise there isn't that much difference between the pay I get to that of my IITian friend who got me through school (he went on to get an MBA from IIM Lucknow too). Though, I know he has much greater potential, I say this just to make a point that things get easier with a good college degree and a good grades, but it's not a limiting condition.

Basically, everyone needs to focus and work hard at some point in life. You can do it in school, during college, or even after that. There no expiry date to learning. So all is not lost, if your brother doesn't get into a good college.

What you can do is, try and inspire him. Involve him in something he is interested in. A pet project or something where he can contribute and build something that he can be proud of. 

Don't compare him with his peers who are doing well.
Don't ask him to be like anyone else.
Don't push him to study.

But try and inspire. Have a candid talk with him, as to what he wants to do in life. Try not to sound dejected or concerned with this. Just be genuinely interested in his thoughts.

Also, guys do stupid things to impress girls, even smart ones. One of my friends, who later went on to go to IIT BHU,  exploded crackers inside school premises to impress a girl. This caused him to get expelled. 

It takes time for some to realize that breaking rules, expensive gifts, and fast bikes only impresses girls for so long, and that too only to a certain point. Eventually life teaches this to everyone.

I won't lie, and let you know that some of these guys are still without a job. (I've had 5+ yrs of job experience) Yet, some of the others who dropped out, are doing quite well. I've observed that having a rebellious nature often adds to one's confidence in interacting with people. They're not easily intimidated by anyone. They also don't mind getting their hands dirty to get the job done.They mostly shine in jobs like Sales, Marketing, Event Management, etc. These are all good fields, and pay handsomely if you're good at the job. 

My advice is, don't try to enforce life's learning onto him. Try your best to show him the right road, but don't push him to walk on it. 

Sooner or later, everyone figures out these things on their own. For his case, I hope it's sooner.

Answer 2

126A,

Green Park,

New Delhi,

20th October, 2018

Dear Aman,

I hope you are doing well and your studies are going well. I am writing this letter to you to advise you upon helping and working with others. I had a word with mother last night she was upset with your behavior of being careless about things and her health. You must understand that as she is ill nowadays she cannot does every work actively and that you should help her wherever it is possible. You must learn to adapt to the changes not only it will benefit you at home but in future as well. It's important to adapt and learn with the changing environment in order to be a successful person and achieve something in life. Lastly, as our mother says the more you help other the more you gain.

I hope you will understand and help and understand her and other people in your life.

Your's lovingly,

Akshit.