Mukul was a hard working policeman. He married a beautiful girl from his village. Both of them stayed in a house at police
quarters. Mukul's boss, Sub-Inspector Sandeep was an arrogant and flirtatious officer. He did not treat his subordinates
well. He had an eye on Mukul's wife ever since he first saw her on the day of Mukul's wedding. His house was in the
neighborhood of Mukul's. Unlike other superior officers, Sandeep often invited Mukul to visit his home with his wife for
dinner and to other get together parties. Mukul had noticed that Sandeep was trying to get closer to his wife by making jokes
and giving unsolicited advises. Sandeep denied Mukul any holidays. Mukul was tired of asking for leave so many times and had
even mildly protested once. Sandeep wanted Mukul and his wife to stay at the quarters all the time. Once Mukul wanted a
fifteen days of leave to arrange and look after his only sister's wedding. He had to go to his native with his family for
fifteen days. Mukul officially kept asking for leave two months well before the wedding date itself. But as expected,
Sandeep kept refusing him any leave. Just before the scheduled day Mukul had to leave for his native, he once again finally
asked Sandeep to grant him leave. Sandeep said that he would grant him leave provided he went alone to the marriage leaving
behind his wife in the quarters. Mukul, agitated, took his loaded rifle and shot the inspector dead. He then surrendered to
the police. How Mukul could have handled the situation.
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Answer:
This conflict could have been resolved in a much simpler manner had one or both the parties acted with emotional intelligence and the disasterous result could be avoided.
Mukul :
1. He should have discussed his concerns with his wife and together reached out on a concensus to avoid all social contacts with Sandeep, outside office. For example if the couple laughs at Sandeep's joke he may feel more into Mukul's wife, on the other hand absolute & visible avoidance discorages obsession.
2. Mukul should have directly talked to Sandeep and frowarded his concerns strongly. Many a times its misunderstanding and an objective conversation can help a person to understand that he is crossing the limit.
3. Mukul should have escalated the issue pertaining to the leaves to higher authorities.
4. Mukul or/and his wife should have informed the situation to Sandeep's wife.
5. He shouldnt have delayed to complain as there was a percieved threat to his wife and prevention is better than cure.
6. Even at the provocating statement he should have kept calm and complained to desiplinary department/Senior. Such behaviour is never tolerated and there were all chances that the problem could have been solved by once for all by the displenary bodies.
Sandeep :
1. Sandeep should have undestood basic humanity and empathy entwined with leadership. He being leader , should have undertaken all the steps to set good examples behaviour and character and create condusive environment for his team to function rather than behaving inappropriately himself.
2. Even If he felt very strongly about Mukul's wife, it could have faded down had he managed his infactuation well. At the minimum he should have avoided visiting Mukul's for lunch/dinner, should have discussed with his own wife creating a virtual self imposed monitor. He could have distracted himself , what better than granting the requested leaves.
3. In some cases meditation helps to control our mind. Police department keeps doing life skill training, he could have attended them.
World is full of people like Sandeep. Its likely that Mukul's wife may encounter more of them in future too, what good can he be now to protect her from jail.