PLEASE DO READ THIS PASSAGE AND DO QUESTIONS FROM MY PROFILE
Read the following passage carefully.
(1) A leader should make his men want him. He should make his people accept him freely, willingly and
eagerly. He should influence their thinking, shape their ideas and direct their actions to achieve the
required objective.
(2) An aspiring leader should, as a rule, avoid finding faults with others. He should never categorically and
dogmatically declare that another individual is wrong. No doubt, one delights in finding faults with
others, blaming others and catching others in the wrong. But don't forget that right and wrong are in
most cases a relative concept. When you are out to prove another person wrong, you start with a serious
handicap, you can let in all the evidence, quote all the books, produce witnesses and establish your
point all right. But in spite of all that you would not have convinced the other individual that he or she
was on the wrong or did the wrong thing. Since you have failed to convince the individual, you cannot
influence the party.
(3) On the other hand, in your eagerness to prove him wrong, you will only earn his enmity and hatred. His
ego will be aroused. He will defend himself at any cost. Since you are striking a deadly blow at his self
respect, pride, intelligence and judgement, he will protest and oppose you tooth and nail. Although you
are right, never try to prove it to him. Never challenge him. Never hurt his self esteem and pride. If we
aspire for leadership and recognition, we should follow the advise that Lord Chesterfield gave to his
son "Be wiser than other people if you can, but do not tell them so."
(4) This does not mean that we should never point out the mistakes of others to them. You must put a stop
when an individual is doing the wrong but make sure that you motivate him to change on his own
voluntarily and willingly. Don't attempt to convince him of his errors and mistakes. Instead be tactful,
judicious and help him to make the discovery himself. Instead of declaring that the other party is in the
wrong, start by saying that you might be in the wrong and therefore you would like to examine the facts
with his help. Be practical and sensible because logic and reasoning will have no appeal where one's
ego is involved. Basically all of us are averse to change. Our ideas, beliefs, customs and values are very
sacred to us and we cling to them with surprising zeal and fanaticism. Changes have to be brought about
gradually and naturally. Instead of forcing one to change we must help to change voluntarily and
gradually. In this context, the observations of Prof. Robinson, an eminent psychologist, merit serious
consideration. He says, "We sometimes find ourselves changing our minds without any resistance or
heavy emotion but if we are told we are wrong, we resent the imputation and harden our hearts. We are
incredibly heedless in the formation of our beliefs, but find ourselves filled with an illicit passion for
them when anyone proposes to rob us of their companionship".
(5) Let us therefore avoid finding faults and let us not rush to prove others wrong. If we have to do it, then
let us do it in a diplomatic, gentle, tactful and indirect manner. The leader has only one aim
to win over others to his way of thinking. He should see that all his words and deeds invariably
contribute to this primary objective. If they do, he is bound to win.
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PLEASE DO READ THIS PASSAGE AND DO QUESTIONS FROM MY PROFILE
Read the following passage carefully.
(1) A leader should make his men want him. He should make his people accept him freely, willingly and
eagerly. He should influence their thinking, shape their ideas and direct their actions to achieve the
required objective.
(2) An aspiring leader should, as a rule, avoid finding faults with others. He should never categorically and
dogmatically declare that another individual is wrong. No doubt, one delights in finding faults with
others, blaming others and catching others in the wrong. But don't forget that right and wrong are in
most cases a relative concept. When you are out to prove another person wrong, you start with a serious
handicap, you can let in all the evidence, quote all the books, produce witnesses and establish your
point all right. But in spite of all that you would not have convinced the other individual that he or she
was on the wrong or did the wrong thing. Since you have failed to convince the individual, you cannot
influence the party.
(3) On the other hand, in your eagerness to prove him wrong, you will only earn his enmity and hatred. His
ego will be aroused. He will defend himself at any cost. Since you are striking a deadly blow at his self
respect, pride, intelligence and judgement, he will protest and oppose you tooth and nail. Although you
are right, never try to prove it to him. Never challenge him. Never hurt his self esteem and pride. If we
aspire for leadership and recognition, we should follow the advise that Lord Chesterfield gave to his
son "Be wiser than other people if you can, but do not tell them so."
(4) This does not mean that we should never point out the mistakes of others to them. You must put a stop
when an individual is doing the wrong but make sure that you motivate him to change on his own
voluntarily and willingly. Don't attempt to convince him of his errors and mistakes. Instead be tactful,
judicious and help him to make the discovery himself. Instead of declaring that the other party is in the
wrong, start by saying that you might be in the wrong and therefore you would like to examine the facts
with his help. Be practical and sensible because logic and reasoning will have no appeal where one's
ego is involved. Basically all of us are averse to change. Our ideas, beliefs, customs and values are very
sacred to us and we cling to them with surprising zeal and fanaticism. Changes have to be brought about
gradually and naturally. Instead of forcing one to change we must help to change voluntarily and
gradually. In this context, the observations of Prof. Robinson, an eminent psychologist, merit serious
consideration. He says, "We sometimes find ourselves changing our minds without any resistance or
heavy emotion but if we are told we are wrong, we resent the imputation and harden our hearts. We are
incredibly heedless in the formation of our beliefs, but find ourselves filled with an illicit passion for
them when anyone proposes to rob us of their companionship".
(5) Let us therefore avoid finding faults and let us not rush to prove others wrong. If we have to do it, then
let us do it in a diplomatic, gentle, tactful and indirect manner. The leader has only one aim
to win over others to his way of thinking. He should see that all his words and deeds invariably
contribute to this primary objective. If they do, he is bound to win.
(b) An aspiring leader should not hesitate at all in declaring others wrong if they are wrong.