Question

*POSITIVE PARENTING



Dear Parents

I am forwarding you something I read and felt will be very useful to each one of us.

Give time to read it and think over it.



Tirukkural was written by Tiruvalluvar (a Tamil poet/writer) more than 5,000 yrs ago. It’s one of the ancient sciences on Human Behaviour, which has not changed in spite of modern education & technology!



SOME GOLDEN THOUGHTS OF THIRUKKURAL:



1. *If your children lie to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.*



2. *If your children are not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.*



3. *If your children had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.*



4. *If your children do not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.*



5. *If your children take things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.*



6. *If your children are cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.*



7. *If your children do not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking, you order & command them.*



8. *If your children are too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour & you give little attention to good behaviour.*



9. *If your children are excessively jealous, it is because you congratulate them only when they successfully complete something & not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it*



10. *If your children intentionally disturb you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.*



11. *If your children are openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.*



12. *If your child is secretive, it is because they are sure that you would blow things out of proportion.*



13. *If your children back-answer to you, it is because they watch you do it to others & think its normal behaviour.*



14. *If your children don’t listen to you but listen to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions*



15. *If your children rebel it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right*

Answer 1

this is hard question

Answer 2

TRUE.These are the real reasons and many more may be there.