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THE INC. LIFE
7 Ways to Overcome the Toxic Self-Criticism That Robs You of Mental Strength
A negative inner dialogue will prevent you from having a positive life.
By Amy MorinAuthor, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do"@AmyMorinLCSW

CREDIT: Getty Images
Your private inner dialogue can either be a powerful stepping stone or a major obstacle to reaching your goals. If you constantly make negative predictions like, "I'm going to mess up," or you call yourself names, your self-talk will rob you of mental strength.
Your thoughts affect how you feel and how you behave. The way you think has the power to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Thinking, "I'll never get this job," may cause you to feel discouraged as you walk into an interview. Consequently, you may slump your shoulders, stare at the floor, and make a poor first impression--and inadvertently sabotage your chances of success.
If you have a harsh inner critic, you're not alone. Self-doubt, catastrophic predictions, and harsh words are common. But, you don't have to be a victim of your own verbal abuse.
Although there are many exercises that we use in therapy to help people change the way they think, here are seven ways to tame your inner critic:
1. Pay attention to your thoughts.
You're so used to hearing your own narration that it's easy to become oblivious to the messages you're giving yourself. Start paying close attention to your thoughts and you may discover that you call yourself names or talk yourself out of doing things that are hard.
It's estimated that you have around 60,000 thoughts per day. That's 60,000 chances to either build yourself up or tear yourself down. Learning to recognize your thought patterns is key to understanding how your thinking affects your life.
2. Change the channel.
While problem-solving is helpful, ruminating is destructive. When you keep replaying a mistake you made in your head over and over again or you can't stop thinking about something bad that happened, you'll drag yourself down.
The best way to change the channel is by getting active. Find an activity that will temporarily distract you from the negative tapes playing in your head.
Go for a walk, call a friend to talk about a different subject, or tackle a project you've been putting off. But refuse to listen to your brain beat you up.
. Examine the evidence.
Your thoughts aren't always true. In fact, they're often exaggeratedly negative. It's important to examine the evidence before you believe your thoughts.
If you think, "I'm going to embarrass myself when I give that presentation," pause for a minute. Take out a piece of paper and write down all the evidence that indicates you're going to fail. Then, list all the evidence that you aren't going to fail.
Looking at the evidence on both sides can help you look at the situation a little more rationally and less emotionally. Reminding yourself that your thoughts aren't 100 percent true can give you a boost in confidence.
THE INC. LIFE
7 Ways to Overcome the Toxic Self-Criticism That Robs You of Mental Strength
A negative inner dialogue will prevent you from having a positive life.
By Amy MorinAuthor, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do"@AmyMorinLCSW

CREDIT: Getty Images
Your private inner dialogue can either be a powerful stepping stone or a major obstacle to reaching your goals. If you constantly make negative predictions like, "I'm going to mess up," or you call yourself names, your self-talk will rob you of mental strength.
Your thoughts affect how you feel and how you behave. The way you think has the power to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Thinking, "I'll never get this job," may cause you to feel discouraged as you walk into an interview. Consequently, you may slump your shoulders, stare at the floor, and make a poor first impression--and inadvertently sabotage your chances of success.
If you have a harsh inner critic, you're not alone. Self-doubt, catastrophic predictions, and harsh words are common. But, you don't have to be a victim of your own verbal abuse.
Although there are many exercises that we use in therapy to help people change the way they think, here are seven ways to tame your inner critic:
1. Pay attention to your thoughts.
You're so used to hearing your own narration that it's easy to become oblivious to the messages you're giving yourself. Start paying close attention to your thoughts and you may discover that you call yourself names or talk yourself out of doing things that are hard.
It's estimated that you have around 60,000 thoughts per day. That's 60,000 chances to either build yourself up or tear yourself down. Learning to recognize your thought patterns is key to understanding how your thinking affects your life.
2. Change the channel.
While problem-solving is helpful, ruminating is destructive. When you keep replaying a mistake you made in your head over and over again or you can't stop thinking about something bad that happened, you'll drag yourself down.
The best way to change the channel is by getting active. Find an activity that will temporarily distract you from the negative tapes playing in your head.
Go for a walk, call a friend to talk about a different subject, or tackle a project you've been putting off. But refuse to listen to your brain beat you up.
. Examine the evidence.
Your thoughts aren't always true. In fact, they're often exaggeratedly negative. It's important to examine the evidence before you believe your thoughts.
If you think, "I'm going to embarrass myself when I give that presentation," pause for a minute. Take out a piece of paper and write down all the evidence that indicates you're going to fail. Then, list all the evidence that you aren't going to fail.
Looking at the evidence on both sides can help you look at the situation a little more rationally and less emotionally. Reminding yourself that your thoughts aren't 100 percent true can give you a boost in confidence.
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