Question

some habits affect the health of a adolescence and make them lose their self confidence and the control over themselves​

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Explanation:

The two most common self-confidence drops I see during adolescence are at the beginning, in Early Adolescence (9-13) when separating from childhood, and at the end, in Trial Independence (18-23) when leaving home to operate more on one’s own terms. In both cases, the young person must get used to functioning on a significantly expanded playing field of life experience than she or he encountered before.

At these first and last stages of adolescence, as the scope of life enlarges, the young person typically feels diminished in a number of ways. As the challenges of growth become more complex, they feel relatively more uncertain. As they spend more time away from family, they feel relatively less secure. As they must deal with more unknowns, they feel relatively more ignorant. As they dare more risky decisions and make more costly mistakes, they feel relatively less experienced. As they must rely more on themselves and less on parents, they feel relatively more anxious.

This is why a confident child does not automatically become a confident adolescent. It is why a confident high school student can lose that confidence in college, at least at first. It is why young people are often drawn to a peer who exhibits a lot of confidence -- a formal or informal leader to follow in hopes of catching some of this empowering trait by social association. It is why peer groups become so alluring. Belonging to a collective creates welcome social assurance when individual confidence is low.

Of course, like any psychological trait, carried to excess, self-confidence can have its own downside. Whether in a willful adolescent or a dictatorial parent, when confidence in correctness or control becomes wed to sense of entitlement or certainty, arrogance is born. Now others can find it hard to get along with someone who believes she or her always knows best, is right and never wrong, and expects people to defer to that.    

In general, however, I haven’t seen lack of confidence do adolescents a lot of favors. For example, it can lead to undue influence of peers, it can slow development by limiting experience, it can lower self-esteem by raising self-doubt, it can lessen motivation by reducing the willingness to try, it can foreclose on progress by resisting goal setting, and it can foster failure by justifying giving up.

So I believe parents need to be firmly on the side of encouraging self-confidence in their adolescent where they can because self-confidence enables growth. For this reason, the nature and management of confidence is a topic worth discussing with their teenager: how it can be built, how it can be lost, and how it can be recovered. What follows is an oversimplified explanation to help get this conversation started.