Speech on never pay children's for good grades .plz fast
Answers
It’s that time of year again. Kids are back in school, their first report cards will be arriving soon and their parents are eager to see A’s. In fact, some are so eager that they’re offering cash incentives. What can it hurt — right?
The truth is that paying for grades hurts more than it helps. Study after study shows it results in the opposite of what parents hope for. Here’s why:
It’s external
More than 40 years of research suggest that external rewards dampen internal/intrinsic motivation. When you dangle a financial “carrot” for a good grade, you put the emphasis on the reward (payment) instead of cultivating the drive to excel and a love of learning. The child begins to perform not because of intellectual curiosity and interest in a subject, but for the payout.
It presents a classic Give a Mouse a Cookie conundrum.
Kids soon realize that they can continuously up the ante. When $5 for an “A” doesn’t seem worth the effort in a tough class, they look to raise the stakes. Maybe it’s $5 and a movie, or $10 and a new pair of boots. If your son doesn’t enjoy math, will you have to dangle a $20 payout to keep him motivated? It’s a slippery slope, and it doesn’t end well.
You become part of the entitlement problem.
Paying your kids to do what they should be doing anyway — working hard in school and paying attention —creates the perfect environment for entitlement. Before you know it, the “What will I get for it?” attitude prevails, and everything —respect, good manners, household contributions, family time — comes with a price.
You can actually de-motivate them.
For some kids, A’s are just out of reach. Even if they do everything right — study, listen in school, do their homework, seek help when they don’t understand — they will still come up short. This leaves them feeling that they aren’t good enough, because they haven’t met your expectations. It also creates an environment that’s ripe for sibling resentment if you have kids with different aptitudes.
Never pay children for good grades.
Hey, what do you know about this topic? Always, education! education! education! what is education? writing exams? learning at school? do you think these are educations? Most of our parents just say us to "study well" , "get higher makrs" we know that that doesn't help us in our real future life.
But actually some time we get fed up always learning, sometimes you may know that, after you get your exams mark sheets you may know that your friend is one of a half marks higher than you ,when you parents ask and check your mark sheets they says "Your less than Rohit!" but they don't understand that we work hard and we don't have any appreciatance for getting a higher mark. Example, if I have scored 97% and if my friend have scored 97½ or 98, they say us, you don't study better then him something, xD...
But sometimes you parents might have forced you to go for coaching classes but actually, according to me it is all the waste of time and it doesn't give value to what you learn by doing self study, you need to work hard by youself, if you go to some coaching classes you get very less knowledge that there are many students and the teacher may not techs you individually so, sometimes you get distracted from the next person who is beside you and you won't get enough knowledge, here see this example ,I prove that self study is best!.
Suppose if you learn in a separate place by yourself with you books, notes etc ,if you have exam tomorrow, you must only learn but what can your parents do, they must force and pay must stress to us by telling the word "learn! learn! learn! " but this is really bad. I have a good request to parents, teachers: don't force children to learn always, they can only learn how much their "capacity of Brain" is. Instead of going or moving to extra coaching class as your parents to get you a useful books related to your exam syllabus this may help you to secret more information.
Most of us get tired of reading, sometimes looking at the question paper, first read the paper and answer having with patients. Sometimes, over education may cause you like a "Bird in a cage". Bird in a cage means ain't having any freedom ...Birds should have freedom they fly through the sky and be active each and everday, think what happens if your in a room more than 1 year ,without anything just with books, sure you may becone a mad. hence, first of all fix a time table for everything you do this help your to make your education better sometimes .
Finally, the moral I wants to saying is that your parents or teachers they don't want knowledge but they want "Good Grades".
Tips for learning easily :
Do self studying.
Learn in a distracted free environment.
Always make some notes uing pen and pencil from books, internet, school for other sources this helps you to know more.
Take a short break for every 1 hour, the break must be for half an hour. Don't watch useless TV, Mobile games involving that break. Have a sleep at that time.
Hence, kindly u say that Never pay children for good grades..