Story on forgive forget and embrace to acquire the inner peace
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From past few years, I have been putting continuous efforts to safeguard my self from stress. I have introspected my failures to understand how they affected me. And sought the reasons for anger sneaking into my daily life. I noticed that constant stress was not just altering my daily routine and relationships, but also was corroding me physically.
I took the shed under articles and meditation to become more self-aware. The benefits of meditation I will cover later. Here I will give you the crux of all the articles I read to regain my calm and control. It boils down to two steps.
Step one: Forgive others
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of harming another; you end up getting burned.” — Buddha
I won’t lie, it is not at all easy. It is elevating to read such articles, but when it comes to execution, people forget what they had decided to do. Their anger and ego overpower their clarity.
Next time when you are angry at someone, just look inside and sense, ‘how do you feel?’ Especially, in cases where they don’t care or are unaware or worst, are ignoring you. I am pretty sure the feeling will be far away from peace.
You give them space in your mind. You replay their act in loops, choking up your thoughts with irrational comebacks. Eventually, you either burn out or vent the anger in the wrong direction.
Everyone feels anger when something wrong happens to them. It is hard to think straight when things don’t work as per our wishes.
But next time when you calm down after the initial rage and sit to ponder upon what had happened and how it affected you, consciously forgive them.
Not for their good but yours. How others act or react has never been in your control but your choice have always been.
Consciously is the key here. At no point will I say that be blind to what they have done. Just forgive them for their last act. You will feel a rush in your body that will make you feel light within an instant.
You are still free to choose how you react. Whether you want to give them one more chance or if you want to cut them off from your life and move on. Do this instead of planning and plotting your responses, which are purely directed by your anger.
I still get angry but the amount of time I take to regain senses has reduced drastically from months and years to seconds and few days.
Forgive first then act rationally. It’s a skill that will take years to master. So be patient.
Step two: Forgive yourself
Forgiving others is just the first half of the journey to peace. And in my learning, forgive oneself has been the most the difficult thing I have ever done.
What makes it so difficult is that you can build stories around what others do? You can take the high road or be the bigger one by forgiving others. But when it comes to oneself then there is no covering up the truth. It is right there in front of your eye, standing stark naked. We know what exactly we did wrong?
Guilt can eat you up inside out. Even though we are well aware what is cause of our pain, we don’t want to talk to ourselves about it.
You must have observed that psychologists ask patients to introspect. They ask the patients to delve into what exactly went wrong? What it made them feel? Why they acted the way the acted? And why they suppressed all those feelings? Introspection resolves most of the issues and forgiving oneself is the key to it.
“Don’t be so hard on yourself. It was not your fault.”
The process to heal and fix things starts when you acknowledge they exist. And for acknowledging them, you need to face them head-on. In this case, you face your self-esteem, your inner values, and your perfect self. You ask yourself some of the most difficult questions and listen to painful ’