Question

Sudha is very conscious of her dark complexion.
She avoids interacting with people around. Give four
suggestions to Sudha which can help build a positive
self esteem.

Answer 1

Four suggestions to Sudha which can help build positive self-esteem:

Sudha has to build on her self-esteem.

1. The first thing she should do is concentrate on her strengths. She should make a list of all positive traits about herself like what she is good at, whether she has any special talents or any other positive traits in her, She should develop these talents and focus less on her looks.  

2. If it helps she can read autobiographies or biographies of people who have achieved a lot and who may not be great lookers. This will help her understand that looks are not everything and they do not matter. If there are people around who taunt her for her colour she should overcome this by ignoring these comments.  

3. Sudha should focus on her goal in life and try to achieve as much as she can so that her actions speak for themselves.

4. She could also talk to a friend or anyone whom she is comfortable with and try to come out of this inferiority complex. She can also read self-help books. These are my suggestions.

Answer 2

So here are four suggestions I would like to give Sudha

1. Sudha has to build only on her self esteem and her talent.External attributes like complexion,height,weight aren't deciding factors anymore as there are just external and in no way connected to inner self.
2. Sudha should meet a mentor who gets to spend time with her which helps are to shell out her feelings.If she is shy to interact with way too many people she could avoid it but interacting with just a mentor helps her to stay light and happy.This also increases her transparency and soon she will automatically socialise.
3. Sudha should start focusing on her life ambition as the happiness she is going to get after achieving it will automatically help her build a positive self esteem and carve out a niche for herself.
4. The last thing she could do is start reading the books of great personalities which help her to understand the difficulties the have undergone to get to that level and this also helps her realise that complexion is not any great difficulty and it could easily be ignored.
5. The fact that complexion is all genetics should be reinforced so that it makes Sudha feel better.