what are the defects of arrange marriage.Please
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The defects of arrange marriage are as follows:
1. Deprives the Thrill of Dating
There is no dating phase. You may only get to see, touch or know the person you are about to marry on the wedding day itself. For some people, the getting-to-know-you stage is critical at choosing a lifetime partner.
2. Feeling of Alienation
Since everyone but you are hands on your wedding, you may feel that it is not your wedding at all. You have very limited say on your wedding, if anything, everything comes to you by surprise.
3. Family Interference
Your family was deeply involved during the wedding and this involvement continues throughout the marriage. They may interfere with almost everything about your marriage to the point of intruding your privacy and compromising your individuality. When the marriage does not work, the parents are to blame.
4. Love Is Not a Priority
Often in an arranged marriage, love takes the backseat. It does not matter whether you love the person or not, as long as your parents like the person and both families agree to the arrangement. Love may or may not bloom throughout your marriage, and if it does not – it can cause you great misery.
5. Living with a Stranger
Your spouse is supposedly your lifetime partner, your best friend, your confidante. But that is often impossible to experience with arranged marriage. It takes time to trust and love a person as deeply as husbands and wives in a loving relationship do. For the first few years (or throughout your marriage), you might be living with a total stranger you cannot trust or love.