Question

what moral do we get from the book Pride and prejudice

Answer 1

#1: The difference between beauty and sophistication.
The etymology of “sophisticated” is insightful. It traces itself back to the sophists of Socrates' day: teachers whose most noted quality was a preference for style over substance.
In Austen's day, as is true of every age, people were greatly fixated on social hierarchies. At the highest levels, it was tremendously important that one always display, regardless of truth or authenticity, a perfect sense of external “culturedness”.
Manners were everything. The condition of a person's heart meant nothing in comparison to how one sat, talked, or dressed.
Given how little room existed at the top of the ladder, social gatherings were often a vicious, zero-sum affair. Holding one's place in society meant constant criticism and constant vigilance.
"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbours, and laugh at them in our turn?"
Sophistication was currency, which implied a broken system.
Beauty, in comparison, is simpler, more profound — at heart, it’s just nature speaking in purest form, when all else that would obscure it has been removed.
In Austen's presentation, Elizabeth and Jane were beautiful in a way that women have almost always been discouraged from being: they were themselves, in all their glorious quirks, flaws, and charms.
Austen was famous for characters that turned their nose at the empty traditions of higher society, with a distinct preference for things that were human, real, and enduring. Elizabeth may have been her best.
#2: Marriage should always be about more than money.
Marriage, for the majority of human history, has been a matter of economics. One married or was married off because it was the surest means of financial security. The ugly truth is that women were often mere currency in such transactions.
Up until Austen's day, this was generally treated as an accepted fact of life which seemed accidental and unworthy of further comment.
For her, it was something that demanded discussion. Pride and Prejudice is, among other things, essentially a treaty on the evils of marrying for money.
It wasn't just that she called attention to it — it's that she had the gall to imply that marriage should be about something so laughably pragmatic as compatibility.
Even wilder, she seemed to believe that entering into such an arrangement should be a mutual decision of both sexes.
#3: The self-evident equality and systematic inequality of women.
Building on the two earlier two points, Elizabeth's rejection of Mr. Collins is remarkable:
"I thank you again and again for the honour you have done me in your proposals, but to accept them is absolutely impossible. My feelings in every respect forbid it. Can I speak plainer? Do not consider me now as an elegant female, intending to plague you, but as a rational creature, speaking the truth from her heart."
This was a brave and majestic moment in literature. The contextual situation is described earlier by Mary.
"Loss of virtue in a female is irretrievable; that one false step involves her in endless ruin; that her reputation is no less brittle than it is beautiful; and that she cannot be too much guarded in her behaviour towards the undeserving of the other sex.”
What if Mr. Collins, in a fit of spurned rage, had charged her publicly with some sin? History proves that his word would have counted, and that her prospects would have been ruined.
A woman of that era simply didn't turn down gainful proposals lightly — to do so was courting a very real and very permanent risk that extended to every sphere of her life.
Elizabeth is a feminist hero, and Jane Austen gave the world a gift when she created her. Not just on account of her courage, but also for her stubborn sense of self-worth.
Even Mr. Darcy recounts how unusual and enriching it was to rise to the occasion of increasing his own value so as to "please a woman worthy of being pleased".
#4: Introversion as a healthy, natural disposition.
Speaking as an introvert, Mr. Darcy is pretty much the greatest literary hero we have. Modern characters like Harry Potter owe a debt to the archetype he helped create.
#5: The richness of letting people evolve.
All of us judge at first sight on some level. We've all been guilty of cutting someone down to a caricature on flimsy evidence. It's one of our worst qualities as humans.
"It is particularly incumbent on those who never change their opinion, to be secure of judging properly at first."
But, as Elizabeth learns, people are as deep and beautiful and kind as we allow and aid them to become. Sadly, we're too often prevented by pettiness.
Darcy: “There is, I believe, in every disposition a tendency to some particular evil — a natural defect, which not even the best education can overcome.”
Elizabeth: “And your defect is a propensity to hate everybody.”
Darcy: "And yours," he replied with a smile, "is to willfully misunderstand them."