Why did the uncle make fun of appa mam? How did he react to the teasing?
Answers
Answered by
0
Dude, you will NEVER be respected BY ANYONE if you cannot take the risk of being rejected. Please, get this firmly rooted in your head.
So, what does that mean for you? You have stated " I do not want to take this from him any more." Well, then there is NO WAY you can NOT take "this from him any more" WITHOUT communicating with him in some way or other. I hope you do realize this! Of course, you could evade him as much as possible. You could keep a polite facade, but this will not resolve your conflict with him. What is needed here are stronger signals from YOU to HIM.
Now, I don't mean that you have to be rude to do this. But you have to be truthful and you have to be authentic. You see: Some situations can best be solved if you have your words ready. For example: Next time you meet this uncle of yours you should tell him in calm words that you have the impression that he is never satisfied with you. That he is ALWAYS criticising you, never ever finding one good hair on you... Tell him that you are sad/unhappy with this situation. Ask him what his reasons for this are. Ask him what you can do to improve the relationship to him. Ask him if there is anything you can do for him to improve communication with him. (I noticed that you wrote that he "bashes" you on the phone, yelling "Do you even know if your uncle is alive or dead?" This indicates to me that he might feel a bit ignored/left behind...)
If you talk to him with such words, calmly and composed, WITHOUT you offering any explanations or justifications, JUST listening and asking from him for information then there is a high chance that he will be impressed by your authentic efforts to improve your relationship with him...
If, however, your words do not impress him because he is just a menacing character who likes to hurt/pounce on other people THEN it's time to send stronger signals. THEN it's time to take off the velvet gloves and make it clear to him in distinct words that leave no room for interpretation that if he continues with his bullying you will NOT take ANY MORE bul
So, what does that mean for you? You have stated " I do not want to take this from him any more." Well, then there is NO WAY you can NOT take "this from him any more" WITHOUT communicating with him in some way or other. I hope you do realize this! Of course, you could evade him as much as possible. You could keep a polite facade, but this will not resolve your conflict with him. What is needed here are stronger signals from YOU to HIM.
Now, I don't mean that you have to be rude to do this. But you have to be truthful and you have to be authentic. You see: Some situations can best be solved if you have your words ready. For example: Next time you meet this uncle of yours you should tell him in calm words that you have the impression that he is never satisfied with you. That he is ALWAYS criticising you, never ever finding one good hair on you... Tell him that you are sad/unhappy with this situation. Ask him what his reasons for this are. Ask him what you can do to improve the relationship to him. Ask him if there is anything you can do for him to improve communication with him. (I noticed that you wrote that he "bashes" you on the phone, yelling "Do you even know if your uncle is alive or dead?" This indicates to me that he might feel a bit ignored/left behind...)
If you talk to him with such words, calmly and composed, WITHOUT you offering any explanations or justifications, JUST listening and asking from him for information then there is a high chance that he will be impressed by your authentic efforts to improve your relationship with him...
If, however, your words do not impress him because he is just a menacing character who likes to hurt/pounce on other people THEN it's time to send stronger signals. THEN it's time to take off the velvet gloves and make it clear to him in distinct words that leave no room for interpretation that if he continues with his bullying you will NOT take ANY MORE bul
Similar questions