why do people hide things?
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We hide by avoiding things that will change us … We hide by asking for reassurance. We hide by letting someone else speak up and lead … We live in fear of feelings.”
Shame is the hiding emotion. Here are some of my thoughts on the origin of hiding:
We are born with core feelings of exuberance, excitement, joy, interest and pride. Ever see a little baby convulse, shake, smile and laugh with sheer uninhibited delight in response to mere eye contact from a smiley, bright-eyed mommy?
But when a baby’s exuberance is met with a “SHHHH!” or a flat, sad, uncaring or angry expression, innate shame is evoked. The mismatch between our exuberance and our caregiver’s response causes an excruciating reaction in our young bodies that causes us to shrink. It is a primal rejection. We pull away from engagement to protect ourselves from the insult of not being matched. This is the birth of shame: the hiding emotion.
Any time our exuberance is not validated, we are prone to shame. Being shamed can happen at throughout our lives. However, the younger we were and the more it happened, the more we instinctively protected ourselves.
Shame is an awful physical and emotional experience. Shame makes us feel like we are disappearing and disconnected. It is frightening. The brain learns well to avoid it. That’s why we reflexively hide.
As adults, no longer reliant on caregivers or others for emotional and physical safety, we can relearn how to feel safe while feeling big, expansive and exuberant. We can rewire our brains and safely try again.
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