Write a letter to your present self
Answers
Explanation:
Dear Present Me,
You are very stubborn and headstrong. Although you ask for other people’s advice, you do not listen. You respect it but in the end you always do what you want. You like to learn the hard way.
But that is also your best personality trait. You fight for what you want and never surrender until the very end, and even then you still find it hard to let go.
I have never known a person who after being heartbroken time and time again, would not give up on love altogether. Yet you are still hopeful that prince charming or mr right will one day arrive. Even though at the back of your mind you aren’t so sure. Deep inside there is still that glimmer of hope that you hold on to.
You love like no other.
When you are in love that is it. No one else exists except the two of you. You see the beauty in everything. That is love. I know you love him with everything you had. You defied your family, your friends and beliefs to protect him. Although in retrospect that is admirable, deep inside you knew that it was not right. He didnt ask you to. He didn’t have to. With you there is no need to ask. You just do it. It’s very simple. You do it because you love him. But in doing so, you lost yourself in the process. What was important to you no longer became important. He became the most important person to you.
But ask yourself this – Did he do that same for you? Did you receive the same unconditional love you freely gave to him? Just think about it.
But I know you. You will defend him even if you know he is wrong. You will justify his actions to protect him. It doesn’t have to be the material things you can give a person, nor the places you can take them. Rather, its the reassurance that when your world is crumbling and falling apart around you, they are there beside you, holding your hand and saying – we can get through this together.
At his darkest moment, without a second thought you dropped everything and stopped your life, bought the first ticket out just to be with him. Even though, you had no idea where you were going to get the money from. But somehow you found a way. Without a shadow of a doubt you would do it again in a heartbeat. That is true love. It’s like that saying – if you really love someone you find a way, if you don’t there are so many excuses. It’s really that simple. Showing someone that you love them by reassuring them that you aren’t going anywhere, whatever may happen.
That is all you needed.
Now we get to the current situation.
You bottled up so much sadness, hurt and disappointment for the past few years that it came out in one titanic eruption of emotion. I keep telling you, do not speak or act out in anger because you will regret it. I know you do.
Now look what happened.
But what about the things he did to you? The infidelity. Not once or twice but four times or more. Does he think that didn’t insult your faith in love?
But you still gave him a second chance. Thinking, hoping and praying that he would change. He promised he would. But did he really?
But everything happens for a reason.
Look at what happened. Not even 5minutes after you broke up he was asking for another girl’s number. Not even a week after he is with another girl.
Now ask yourself this – is it really that easy for him to move on or had he already moved on before he ended it? Did he really love you? Or he just thought he did.
From the beginning of your relationship, you both knew it was going to be an uphill battle. But you gave it everything you had. There is nothing more you could have done to salvage whatever is left of it. If anything you did your best.
You want to be happy for him and no matter how many times you say it to yourself, you know that you’re not. I know you are scared. I have been there too. But one day, you will be happy. You will be truly happy for him. You will no longer have sleepless nights, you will no longer cry yourself to sleep, you will no longer think of him. The pictures of him will be taken down and you will store it in a safe place along with all the other memories you had of him. The good times and the bad. And one day you will reflect on this and say to yourself – we had fun and I really enjoyed his company. There will be no regrets, no hatred, no bitterness. Just the thought and acceptance that some people are just not meant to stay forever in your life.It will come. I can assure you of that.
You may or may not run into him and I know you are scared to see what your reaction would be if ever you did but even if your heart is breaking and you want breakdown and cry. Please don’t. You are stronger than that. Smile and be happy for him. Be happy that even for a short moment in your life, he once made you the happiest person. And for that you should be thankful.