Write a short speech on 'Fighting does not solve any Problem' and deliver it in front of
your class. Include points like:
fighting leads to injuries
we make enemies
We must solve issues through discussion and by asking grown-ups for their help.
Answers
First keep the peace within yourself, then you can also bring peace to others.” ~ Thomas à Kempis
No couples really like to be in conflict, but so often they get stuck in the battle and cannot get out. Over the years they collect resentments, holding on to them and firing them at the other when the conflict rages.
Their way of dealing with conflict is do to battle. They take turns cutting down the other, hurling blame, judgments and criticisms. Not unlike an actual war, both sides take hits and are slowly decimated.
The conflicts are never really resolved, though there may be periods of relative peace in between the fights. The hurtful comments have created wounds that never really heal. You can apologize, but you can never really take the memory of those words out of your partner’s head.
The important point to remember is that fighting causes damage, but never creates peace or solves problems. “Fighting” and “dealing with an issue” are two distinctly different processes. Probably everyone knows how to fight, but few can count themselves as really good problem solvers or facilitators.
It strikes me as quite odd that throughout all of our schooling, and all the learning children are exposed to outside of school, we have not learned good strategies for dealing with conflict situations. We still revert to a primitive conflict/competition mode.
