write down some of the things you want to do,but your parents/elder's do not allow you to
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Go with the crazy.
My parents are amazing, and allowed me and my siblings quite a bit of freedom, giving us countless opportunities to explore by ourselves (to the local park by ourselves) and experience deep play. Y’know, the type that taps into your fears and teaches you to overcome them in a safe yet terrifying manner: walking on a log over a river, kayaking down a weir on holiday, roller coasters, jumping off the Cambus O’May bridge into the water[1](not any of us in the video [disclosure, they let us when we were there as a family, but my brother and I only did so on summer camps) ... That kind of thing.
In short, partly by allowing us some crazy they brought up three very well rounded children. So this isn't a complaint, simply a wee learning point that I hope to take on board.
There’s some crazy we weren’t allowed - as conservative (small c) folks, their style just didn’t allow it. No judgement there.
But I think allowing some of the crazy ideas that children think up (where it’s not going to harm them or anyone else) can build them up and help them find their own sense of independence, a life-long confidence about asking for what they want and going for it.
“Dad, I want to hop to school.” OK, son! Cool. Let’s make it happen. Let’s experiment and hop on the way home, see how long it takes and work out how much extra time we’ll need to leave at. Let’s make it happen. Just think of where that single hop to school might end up.
Or how about, “Dad, I want some barbies for Christmas.” Well, I can’t think of a reason why not. Boys can and do play role playing games. He might end up being a high end fashion designer. Who knows where those early games will end up?
Or, “Dad, can I die my hair red?” Well, the school might have something to say about that, but it’s not going to be “no.” Let’s talk about it. Look at options, think about why. Could we do it for charity too? Could all of us die our hairs over the summer?
Now, if the crazy would be detrimental to their and other people's health that's a big no-no, but hopefully it will never get to that. It will be a case of reminding myself that what may sound crazy to my adult ears may be perfectly rational for my boy, and that helping him go for it will help him go for things when he’s older.
This is totally idealistic, of course, and relies on me actually having the energy to make these things happen, rather than just saying ‘nope.’