your friend is shy and often faces problems with group task she/ he is unable to give his/her best and gets left out often with your partner discuss: the reason for his/ her discomfort could be. what suggestions could help him overcome this discomfort? Follow up questions are do u feel he will be open to? Do u involve her parents. Why? How could other group members help? Do u think it is unfair that? What could motivate? Don't u think? Would it be a good idea to? What do u think about? Would u sugest that. Why? What would u do if....
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You can either use the following discussion or formulate your own taking ideas from it:
Student A: Hey are you free? I want to discuss something with you!
Student B: Sure! What is the problem?
Student A: Our group member, Harshita often faces problems with group tasks. She is not able to give her best and is often left out.
Student B: I also feel the same. For example, in the last FA group activity, she just could not do the part assigned to her! For example she had been assigned to make a few slides on the project; and she could not!
Student A: True! I talked to her about it. She said she could not. She is not computer savvy. Just imagine living in 21st century and not knowing how to operate computer!
Student B: I think it is because of her family environment. There is no one much educated in her family. She has this inferiority complex in her. This does not let her give her best.
Student A: The other factor is her academic performance. She is the only one in our group who does not score A1 in all subjects. So she has formed a poor perception about herself. She feels she cannot do anything. I feel this poor self-image holds her back from doing her best.
Student B: I think we must help her come out of her self-created quagmire of low self-esteem.
Student A: Sure. I very much want it to do well. We need to have a session with her. We will give her a pep-talk.
Student B: We will give her the motivational movie The Secret and ask her to watch it again and again. The motivational coaches in the movie inspire a lot. They teach the lesson that anyone can do, be, and have anything.
Student A: Yes, it will help her learn how to use her thoughts positively. I also have Louis L Hay’s self-help book ‘You Can Do It’. It will also help her fix her poor self-esteem and confidence.
Student B: We will assure her she can depend on us for any guidance. We will also teach her how easy it is to operate computer these days.
Student A: Sure. I am all ready. We will talk to her this evening. After all helping our fellow students is part of our education.
Follow up questions and answers:
Do you feel s/he’ll be open to...?
I believe he/she will be open to suggestions as he/she must be finding it very hard to cope with the stress. He/she will readily accept our suggestions and will try to come out of it.
Would you involve her/her parents...? Why?
If he/she does not listen to us, we will surely talk to his/her parents. We will also ask them to help him/her come out of the inferiority complex; otherwise he/she will grow up with it.
How could other group members help...?
We will surely ask the other group members to help him/her come out of this shyness. We will ask them not to scold him/her and taunt him/her for not being helpful. We will make them aware of the situation; they might also help him with computer and internet learning.