5.
Consciously or unconsciously, we all like to follow our elders. This picture reminds you of your
efforts to become like your elder sibling-a child prodigy. But now you realize that you must
pursue your own dreams instead of remaining a mere shadow. Make an entry in your diary in
100-120 words.
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Answer:
Sibling rivalry is the jealousy, competition and fighting between brothers and sisters. It is a concern for almost all parents of two or more kids. Problems often start right after the birth of the second child. Sibling rivalry usually continues throughout childhood and can be very frustrating and stressful to parents.
Fortunately, there are lots of things parents can do to help their kids get along better and work through conflicts in positive ways.
Further, most likely your kids’ relationship will eventually develop into a close one. Working things out with siblings gives your children a chance to develop important skills like cooperating and being able to see another person’s point of view.
What causes sibling rivalry?
There are many factors that contribute to sibling rivalry:
Each child is competing to define who they are as an individual. As they discover who they are, they try to find their own talents, activities, and interests. They want to show that they are separate from their siblings.
Children feel they are getting unequal amounts of your attention, discipline, and responsiveness.
Children may feel their relationship with their parents is threatened by the arrival of a new baby.
Your children’s developmental stages will affect how mature they are and how well they can share your attention and get along with one another.
Children who are hungry, bored or tired are more likely to become frustrated and start fights.
Children may not know positive ways to get attention for a sibling or how to start playful activities, so they pick fights instead.
Family dynamics play a role. For example, one child may remind a parent of a relative who was particularly difficult, and this may subconsciously influence how the parent treats that child.
Children often fight more in families where parents think aggression and fighting between siblings is normal and an acceptable way to resolve conflicts.
Not having time to share regular, enjoyable family time together (like family meals) can increase the chances of children engaging in conflict.
Stress in the parents' lives can decrease the amount of time and attention parents can give the children and increase sibling rivalry.
Stress in your children’s lives can shorten their fuses, and decrease their ability to tolerate frustration, leading to more conflict.
How parents treat their kids and react to conflict can make a big difference in how well siblings get along.
How can I help my kids get along better?
First and foremost, don’t play favorites.
Try not to compare your children to one another. For example, don't say things like, "Your brother gets good grades in math—why can't you?"
Let each child be who they are. Don’t try to pigeonhole or label them.
Enjoy each of your children’s individual talents and successes.
Set your kids up to cooperate rather than compete. For example, have them race the clock to pick up toys, instead of racing each other.
Pay attention to the time of day or other patterns in when conflicts usually occur. Are conflicts more likely right before naps or bedtime or maybe when children are hungry before meals? Perhaps a change in the routine, an earlier meal or snack, or a well-planned quiet activity when the kids are at loose ends could help avert your kids’ conflicts.
Teach your kids positive ways to get attention from each other. Show them how to approach another child and ask them to play, and to share their belongings and toys.
Being fair is very important, but it is not the same as being equal. Older and younger children may have different privileges due to their age, but if children understand that this inequality is because one child is older or has more responsibilities, they will see this as fair. Even if you did try to treat your children equally, there will still be times when they feel as if they’re not getting a fair share of attention, discipline, or responsiveness from you. Expect this and be prepared to explain the decisions you have made. Reassure your kids that you do your best to meet each of their unique needs.
Plan family activities that are fun for everyone.