Question

Advise a friend who responds to conflict by using the strategies below on why each strategy is not healthy for sustainable positive relationships
A) Avoidance
B)Confrontation

Answer 1

A. ( to your friend) Avoiding the conflict doesn't make it go away. Simply pushing it away and ignoring it will only make it worst the next time it happens. When you avoid something, you are actually making it the most important thing, since you put all your energy  into pretending it isn't there and making ways around it. It isn't healthy for sustaining a relationship since there will be tension and an underlying problem.

B. ( to your friend) Confrontation can be really beneficial to a relationship, if it is used correctly. When confronting somebody, don't attack them with words, degrade or insult them, or say it LOUDLY and in front of a bunch of people. Instead, choose a quite place, think about what you want to say beforehand, and quietly, ( without anger and insults) tell the person what is bothering you, or what they need to stop. Listen to the person, but don't get distracted and try and ignore any insults they throw at you. Don't lie. Another thing is that if you have a confrontation that is successful, you and the person will be stronger for it. Remind yourself there is boundaries and when somebody pushes boundaries, they may be unsafe.

Hope this helps :)

Answer 2

Answer:

Dear Friend,

             Hi, how are you? I have observed some things about you that I think you should not be doing in an argument. Your response to the conflict was not appropriate on many occasions. Two of the eminent strategies you follow are as follows:-

• AVOIDANCE:

We should avoid any conflict. It is not a healthy sign. The unsolved conflicts no matter how small it is can pile up and turn into an unavoidable fight. So, we used to clear things out every time rather than avoiding an argument to keep things healthy and positive.

• CONFRONTATION:

The timing of confrontation is extremely important. We can not just barge in and confront someone or accuse him of something. We need to do it extremely patiently and with proper evidence. Instinct works, I know but we need more concrete than that. We would not win such an argument. We need to think and act.

I hope, I could make you understand. More when we meet.

Yours Loving Friend,

Ana.