Grandparents are always very dear to grandchildren. What all do you do to spend quality time with your grandparents?
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One of the most important things that grandparents do for their grandchildren is to spend time with them. During their time with grandparents, children learn important lessons that will remain with them all their lives. While grandparents love to shower their grandchildren with gifts and goodies, the greatest gift they give is their time– time that offers a wonderful opportunity to pass on core values, beliefs and skills to their grandchildren.
One important role that grandparents assume is that of teacher. Here are 5 important things that grandparents can teach grandkids during the special times they spend together.
the role of grandparenting is almost seamless, passed down from the previous generation. Everyone wins in these families.
Parents have someone they can talk with about parenting issues and can trust to watch their children from time to time. Grandparents are able to spend quality time with the grandchildren they love and complete the circle of love. Grandchildren have champions who love them unconditionally and are involved in their lives.
In some of these families, the grandparents watch their grandchildren during the day while parents work, have their grandchildren over to spend the night on weekends, or watch their grandchildren during school breaks.
What children can receive from healthy relationships with grandparents
Someone who offers unconditional love
A mentor who can help with problems
Companionship and someone to talk to
Someone who will stand beside them
A window into their parent's childhood
A sense of adventure
Kindness, humor, and patience
A zest for life
Family traditions
The ability to laugh at oneself
Life lessons
Grandparents who live far away from their grandchildren can maintain a close relationship through frequent visits and by phone calls, writing letters, skyping, and emailing between visits.
In other families, there is no past model to follow due to death or physical distance. In these families, grandparents may talk with their adult children to determine their role in their grandchildren's lives or the role may develop over time by trial and error.
Sometimes grandparenting can be complicated due to past issues that have created emotional distance between the grandparents and their adult children. By default, this emotional distance will usually also extend to the relationship between the grandparents and their grandchildren.
Abuse, alcoholism, drug addiction, or mental health issues of a grandparent may result in the grandchildren having little or no relationship with the grandparents.
Divorce sometimes causes a rift between parents and their adult children that may extend to the next generation.
A totally different grandparenting situation can arise when grandparents are raising their grandchildren. This may be due to the natural's parent's death, disease or disability, addiction, job situation, mental instability, or incarceration.
This is probably the most difficult grandparenting scenario. The children lose a normal relationship with their parents and also lose a normal relationship with their grandparents.
It's important for parents and grandparents to agree on the role of the grandparents in their grandchildren's lives. Some of the biggest conflicts between grandparents and their adult children are about the level of involvement.
Grandparents should try to remember that they are not the parents. The decisions are not theirs to make.
Parents should try to respect the fact that their parents did okay raising them. They should also try to realize that grandparents aren't trying to take over, just to be involved.
Both grandparents and parents should try to remember that they are all part of a wonderful circle of life and are connected through children they all love dearly. It's all about the love and grandparents offer that in abundance.
From Tom Potts: "The birth of a grandchild is a wonderful and exciting event! That wonder and excitement continues throughout life."