Have you helped your neighbour describe
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Since your question is vague in regards to what kind of “help” the neighbor needs, I will respond generally to how I help neighbors who live in a close proximity or who are in close relation to me.
Generally, I will wait for someone to share their need because I mind my own business and do not give unsolicited advice. If I witness an urgent matter, I will share information or offer to help. Otherwise, I help people to help themselves. In the past, I would take on a lot of projects in an attempt to help others and I had two distinct outcomes in all cases, because as far as I am concerned, there are two very distinct groups of people in the world, which can be grouped as GIVERS or TAKERS.
1. Givers, who will listen, who care enough to make a difference, who attempt to assist, give their time, money and efforts, etc. in your time of need. They also appreciate the good that is extended to them and reciprocate when you have a need.
2. Then there are the Takers of the world. They feel the world owes them and they take everything for granted. They do not have time to assist because they are absorbed in their own world of needs, they constantly complain about everything, they make excuses about why they cannot step up to the plate, etc., and help you. If you help them once, they will return with more needs for you to resolve. They will not be there when you need them, but will always call on you when they have a need. They may utter the words, “I appreciate it,” but in reality it is only a lip service that will not be followed up by any action. Takers are looking for you to take on their problems and solve them.
Therefore, to create a balance, I help people to help themselves. I realize that people appreciate more of that which is not handed to them, then that which is given freely.