How Can We Control Anger? Do you get angry when your mother switches off the television? Do you get upset when you lose a game? Do you crib when your teacher does not pay attention to you? Most of us can have "yes" as an answer to one or more of these situations. Anger sometimes gets the better of us and leaves us to regret the consequences later. The question is ‘How can we control anger?’ Anger is a normal and healthy emotion only if we know how to respond to it. Uncontrolled anger can often harm us directly or indirectly whether we realise or not. Before we learn to address the issue, let us revisit the concept of anger. Anger is nothing but absence of peace with oneself, people or situations around us. We express it either by being assertive or aggressive. Let us all become the managers of our own anger. When angry, take a few moments to calm down (take five deep breaths, count up to ten, drink water, change your place) before responding. More often than not we do not have control over the situations that distress us. Getting physically active reduces stress. Funny dances, clapping, thumping your feet, a walk, making funny faces at the mirror, etc., go a long way in helping us let go of the anger or the frustration inside us. Once we have our feelings under control, go through all the aspects of the situation and try to see the same situation from different perspectives. If it is a problem try to equip yourself with a few solutions before entering the same situation. Avoid holding a grudge with people and learn when to seek help from others. Realising your own shortcomings can become one of the greatest strengths of character over the years to come. We can never control circumstances, people or situations as they are constantly changing. The only thing we can control is our response. So we have to increase our capacity to tolerate, ability to understand, and learn to nurture love for others. Q.1. What do you understand by the word ‘anger’? Q.2. List any four strategies to manage anger. Q.3. How can you develop strengths of character as given in the passage above? Q.4. Anger management helps you in (Tick the correct answer.)— (a) remaining always happy (b) developing strength of character (c) remaining stress free (d) learning how to respond to the situation Q.5. What is under our control? How can we make it a positive one?
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Answer:
Think before you speak. ...
Once you're calm, express your anger. ...
Get some exercise. ...
Take a timeout. ...
Identify possible solutions. ...
Stick with 'I' statements. ...
Don't hold a grudge. ...
Use humor to release tension.
under one's control. phrase. If something is under your control, you have the power to make all the important decisions about the way that it is run.
Explanation:
1. The feeling being annoyed or irritated.
2. Strategies to manage Anger :
- Think before you speak
- Use humour to release tension
- Once you're calm, express your anger
- Get some exercise
3. Realising your own shortcomings is one of the greatest strengths of character. We can never control circumstances, people or situations as they are constantly changing.
4. (c) remaining stress free.
5. The one thing we can control is our response. So we have to increase our capacity to abide, ability to figure out things, and learn to develop love for others.