I seem to myself like a child (a) who was said this? (b) what character trait of the speaker do you draw from these words?
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Women With Traits of BPD: Why She Can’t Say I’m Sorry
When She Won’t Admit She’s Wrong
If you have ever spent time with a woman who has traits associated with BPD, or a woman who engages in behavior usually associated with borderline personality disorder, you probably know firsthand that getting an apology out of her is next to impossible.
This inability to admit that anything she has done might be wrong is often the death knell for her relationships with others.
After all, being able to apologize to those we are closely connected to is a crucial relationship skill. Without it we find ourselves unable to make amends for our bad moods, misinterpretations, our defenses or our frustrations.
Women With Traits of BPD
In this blog post we are going to take a look at what is really behind this painful behavior pattern in women with traits of BPD. Once you understand the true motivation behind her withholding of an apology you will understand why the many attempts you may have made to get this woman to apologize were guaranteed to fail.
But before we talk about why the woman with traits of BPD cannot seem to apologize for wrongdoing, let’s first address some background information that can be helpful in understanding what is driving her behavior. In order for us to truly understand her motives we must first look at why her inability to apologize is so incredibly hurtful to us.
Why It Hurts So Much
Many of us may think we know the reason that those who cause us pain or harm should apologize. But few of us really understand what is behind this commonly-used formality. When we take a very close look at our need for others to apologize to us, we soon realize that most of the time we already know that the person we want an apology from cares about us.
So if we know they didn’t try to harm us in some way on purpose, but it was more a lapse in judgment or an emotional outburst, why do we need this form of emotional band-aid to make us feel better? The answer to the question of why we need the formality of an apology lies in an all too human character trait that most of us share but few of us are aware of.
The truth is, we are all very, very socially insecure even if we have strong self confidence. Human beings seem to have a natural fear of rejection from others that doesn’t match up with our belief in our worthiness. In other words, even people who have sound self esteem will care too much about what their peers may think about them. This fear of being isolated from the pack may have helped us a great deal in days of old, but it becomes problematic in our present-day society, sometimes causing us to behave in very unhealthy ways.
One unusual aspect of what we could label our natural insecurity is that because we all are equally concerned about the potential rejection by others, we don’t recognize this trait in ourselves. Because we all share it, it feels so normal that it becomes in a sense invisible. But if we look very carefully at our behavior, we will find that as a society we have come up with many formalities which when practiced in our everyday lives keep our natural insecurities at bay.
Apologies are one of these formalities we engage in that are perfectly designed to calm our fears about others rejecting or having negative motives towards us. When we take a moment to reflect on our own behavior we find that there are many times in our daily life when we feel obligated to use the formality of an apology. And we use them even when we know we have done nothing wrong.
For example, let’s take the kind of apology we give when we invade someone’s personal space. We don’t need to be taught that when others get too physically close to us we feel threatened. This is what we might call a built-in fear. This feeling of being threatened is another aspect of our natural insecurity. After all, we no longer live in a society where someone’s proximity alone should cause alarm.
Because of our need to occasionally violate this invisible boundary, we have come up with a way to reassure each other that we mean no harm when we get too close for comfort. The way we reassure each other we are not a threat when we have to enter another’s personal space is we use an apology.
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a. Isaac Newton said this.
b. The character of the speaker is that the speaker, Isaac, is very creative. He thought that there are many things hidden in this world. He also thought that the discoveries he made was very little and thus he observed himself like playing on the seashore, and picking up here ad there a curious shell or a pretty pebble.
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