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Acknowledgement of a good deed is a recognition that your participation in the community has value. We primates almost all need that, one way or another. Howeved, many good deeds are not acknowledge by the community at large, or by anyone within it. Yet the good deed is still good, and it remains done. The same conscience that punishes people when the think about doing wrong, often preventing the bad act, also rewards us to contemplating a brave or noble or selfless act, and rewards us with the pleasure and positive self-interest that comes from doing good that no one knows about.
It does not reduce the intrinsic value of a good deed if the doer is given acknowledgment. It can change our perception of the doer if he seems to have sought the recognition, but as long as he really did what he's praised for, we still acknowledge the deed, and why not? It's a wise society that rewards prosocial acts, because even if most good-deed-doers have partially or totally self-serving motives, everyone is now living in a community with more good deeds being done.
I once knew of a much admired man who, when he was offered the chance to thank the people who had provided food at a meeting he presided over, said,”Why would I thank them? They just did their jobs, the same as me.” My thought was, in your lofty position you are constantly treated with respect that assures you that your place in the community is an honored one. Couldn't you have given a tiny sample of that honor to people who helped make your meeting a success?
Nobody is ever “just doing their job.” We want them to put their heart into it. And if they have done so, it literally costs nothing to say, “Thank you. I especially appreciated X, Y, and Z. It was better than I had even hoped for. Thank you so much.” Letting people feel noticed and appreciated is such an easy gift, yet it means so much to the recipient, even if they pretend that it does not.
It's one of the main grievances of housewives and secretaries, that everyone treats their work as if it merely happened by itself, as if it were a natural condition. Acknowledgment, honor, thanks: They are among the good deeds that good deed doers ought to do.
ADDITIONAL THOUGHT: another reason people need, and may ask for, acknowledgment is that they might need to be reassured that their aid or benefaction is actually helpful and wanted. If it isn't, they could stop and save time, effort, and/or money.