Question

rows in visual foxpro​

Answer 1

I have looked in many VFP books for days, and have found lots of ... but not about this simple one.

Answer 2

To select a row in a grid, you must first move the record pointer to the corresponding record in the underlying cursor or table. Then call the grid's SetFocus method (you do not need to refresh the grid).

You also need to set the grid's HighlightStyle to 2, but I see you have already done that.