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You can lay the groundwork for a good parent-teacher relationship by introducing yourself and getting to know your child’s teacher as early as possible. Communicating and building relationships with your child’s teacher is better than having contact with the teacher only when there’s a problem.
Good parent-teacher relationships mean children:
do better academically, emotionally and socially are happier at school
attend school more regularly
are better behaved.
School problems: what to do
It’s normal for children to have some problems at school.
Some problems are minor – for example, missing out on school council or forgetting to bring the right sports uniform. You and your child can usually sort these ones out yourselves.
Some problems might be more complicated or long-lasting. For example, your child might be having ongoing difficulties in the playground with another child and the strategies you’ve suggested to your child haven’t worked. With these problems, you might need to talk with your child’s teacher to find solutions.
How to approach school problems with teachers
When you need to talk with teachers about problems, a calm and positive approach is likely to get a positive outcome for your child. Here’s what to do.
Pause to calm down
If something has just happened to upset your child, this can upset you too. Try to take some time to calm down before you do anything. This will help you avoid doing something you might regret later, like sending an angry email.
You could say, ‘I see you’re very upset about this, and I’m upset too. We need to calm down so we can think about what to do’. Saying this will help your child to learn this strategy too.
Use it as a teaching opportunity
Even with a serious problem, you can model positive problem-solving for your child by being positive, thinking about solutions and talking about working with the teacher. This is better than complaining or being aggressive.
You could say something like, ‘Let’s ask Mr Smith if he has any ideas about how we can sort out this problem’. This kind of approach shows your child that you value the teacher’s opinion.
Speak respectfully
No matter what you think, it’s important to speak positively and respectfully about your child’s teacher, the school and other children in front of your child. If you complain or criticise the teacher or other children and their families, your child will do the same.
Go through the right channels
This usually means talking directly to your child’s teacher to start with, rather than the principal. Going straight to the principal can make the problem bigger than it is. It’s best to make an appointment with the teacher so that you can discuss the issue privately.
Depending on the issue and your child’s age, it might be appropriate for your child to come to this meeting.
Avoid defensiveness
When there are problems, people sometimes feel defensive. For example, if either you or the teacher feels criticised, you could both end up feeling defensive.
Defensiveness can get in the way of problem-solving, so it’s good to try seeing the teacher’s perspective and to help the teacher see your perspective too. For example, ‘I can see it’s unrealistic to expect you to spend lunch time in the playground helping Ethan, but I’m worried because he’s lonely and has nobody to play with. How can we both help him with this?’
Problem-solving steps to use when meeting with teachers
If you decide you need to meet with your child’s teacher about a serious problem, the following steps can help you and the teacher work together to get a positive outcome.
1. Identify the problem
Be clear and specific about what the problem is – for example, what’s happening, how often, who’s involved and who’s affected. It can help to use a question. For example, the problem of ‘How can we help Brenna make some friends to play with?’ is easier to solve than ‘None of the children will play with Brenna’.
It’s also helpful to ask your child’s teacher about the problem. This way you’ll hear about the situation from another person’s point of view. For example, ‘Brenna is saying no-one wants to play with her. Does this sound right from what you’ve seen?’
2. Identify wants, needs and concerns
Allow everyone to identify their needs, wants and concerns. If you want your child’s teacher to appreciate your concerns, it’ll help if you show that you appreciate the teacher’s position.
Use sentences like ‘I understand…’, ‘I’m concerned about …’, ‘I need …’ and ‘I want …’. For example, ‘I understand that it’s a big class, but I’m concerned that Alistair is falling behind because he doesn’t understand the maths’.
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