what does the expression'dowry donor' mean and why is 1 crore as dowry not a surprise
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When a married women in this country conceives and if she is part of a family looking for a male heir so desperate that even ready to miscarry the foetus - that’s when Dowry takes the first life.
When girl is sent to Govt School or Anganwadi while the boy is bribed into a KV or sent to another city for private school that’s when Dowry rears its ugly head for the second time.
When girl gets treated by Home Remedies while the Boy is taken to Allopathy Doc somewhere in the distant expenditure is being levelled off for the Dowry by the budding parents.
When girl takes the first admission in whatever B.Sc. / B.Com course or B.A Arts or even non-collegiate course that she gets (The governing factor being least expense on education, no long distance travelling to keep her safe and not making her better educated than to be able to find a groom) – this is the third major strike.
When boys get motorcycle at 16 years so that can attend tution and school without trouble – girl is told to avoid school on period days & learn cooking & sewing on non-period days. A 16 Year Old girl in non-urban part of our country is a boon for the mother - she does all the household chores in the name of “You need to learn all this, otherwise, how will you sustain at your in-laws place or in our proverbial slang, kaam nahiin seekhegi toh sasural main naak katayehi kya” plus takes cares of siblings as well when momma dearest has to travel for social obligations.
Because India is still a developing nation. We are still not rich like in Europe or America. We still make-do with things, adjust all the way through our life. The adjustment falls on which sex’s the most gets governed by Dowry.
Go talk to a family in Manipur or Meghalaya. They have matriarchical society. Only women can inherit land there. Guess what – they don’t kill their girl child. There is no dowry required there.
Go talk to a family in Bihar. Dowry practise is so bad, well-off families with non-criminal back ground warn their sons to not to announce their arrival lest they be abducted and married at gunpoint to avoid dowry.
Did you create a Savings a/c when you got married, that I have to save for Alimony if I get divorced otherwise court & police will harass me?
The parents who bore a girl-child did open a Savings a/c for her Dowry. They did not do that because some court or Police will harass them – they did it because the society will harass them and their girl will remain left out of the marriage business if they don’t save enough.
To fellow Quorans arguing against Alimony using Dowry as crutch: Dowry is ugly in India. It cannot be allowed. I don’t comment here on alimony in detail because whether alimony exist or not is a statistics but dowry is a living, breathing aspect of life for majority of parents in Dowry States.
It cannot be belittled as a minor aberration by a class of educated people born/ staying in Metro/ Tier II cities able to question and answer on social platforms like Quora because they got miffed by the ideology of “Dowry” vs “Alimony”. Or maybe they had bad experiences with smart educated women who married for money sake, took divorce and now enjoying Alimony too: Bad seed, I agree. But do you want me to tell how many men over the years have been bad seeds? Trust me even then stats will still be stacked up against men.
And others have answered quite well. The factors that I highlighted in the start of my answer bundle up and keep women at the back of the economic independence. And pregnancy and child-care takes years off a women's career. So they do need the alimony but yeah case to case basis.
Dowry on the other hand is not a mere statistics. It is an all pervasive truth in the lives of countless of Indian parents with girl-child.