Question

Who are foster parents?

Answer 1

Who are foster parents?

There are parent fathers who are not true, when through gestation and after birth, they do not wish to know and / or recognize the child and thus do not adopt their own offspring. There are parenting parents who "raise" children who grow up with a sense of abandonment. How many children live helpless in their own families of origin?

What can be wrong with adopting? What fantasies will the child not make of his or her family of origin? How will this same child build his own family?


I want in this article to address some issues that span the lives of most adoptive parents. These often feel threatened in their true role as parents: there are often doubts about whether or not to tell the child about adoption. Along with this question comes the fear that, if the child knows the truth, he may renounce them as parents, or even become children and adults troubled by their life history.

It is necessary to think that the child understands much more than one can imagine about the things that are around him and mainly that make reference to her. When words are used by adults in order for the child to come to understand the meaning of things or to understand the situation to which they are inserted, it will be possible to walk a quiet path in regard to their emotional development. The child must be told that she is the adopted daughter of her adoptive parents.

There is always a knowing about what you do not know. Even if one tries to "preserve" (I do not know if this is the best term to be used here, since I do not see in the silence an act of preservation) the secret about adoption, there will always be something that escapes in the child's relationship with his parents.

Thus denial, that is, what in its meaning implies a recognition followed by a refusal to know may leave marks subject to pain in the future of the child.


In this way, what inferences can a child who somewhere knows of their adoption, but can not talk about the subject? What can be wrong with adopting? What fantasies will the child not make of his or her family of origin? How will this same child build his own family?

When speaking to the child about the way he arrived in that family, it is important to point out the existence of parents who generated it and who, because they could not create it, left it to the care of adoptive parents. In this way the parents parents gain a body through the discourse of these adoptive parents. Children who recognize them through the discourse of adoptive parents often do not feel the need to actually know them.

It is important that parents' speeches show a degree of gratitude to their parents for placing the child in the world, so that the child can build an identity on a positive basis. A child who can listen to gratitude and even a certain appreciation of adoptive parents for their parents may infer, for example, that "if my parents were good parents because they provided happiness to my foster parents because they raised me, I am good too."


Another concern of parents is that foster children feel different. All children are different from each other and may experience multiple childhood conflicts. The fact is that if there is conflict, whether in the adopted child or in the child created by their parents, it is because something has not been introjected in a quiet way.

Adopted children who feel rejected at school, for example, act in the same way as children raised by their parents who also feel rejected. What is at stake here is the family conflict that was established regardless of the way this family was constituted. It is still important to evaluate whether this rejection is actually felt by the child or whether it is a fantasy or preconception of the adoptive parents themselves.

Men and women who wish to adopt need to be aware of the responsibility they will have before the child. It is not just the responsibility of how to create (caring for the body, caring, education). Every child has the right to know his / her history and could not be different with the adopted child. The child needs to know about herself! Worse than a story that at first may seem sad is not having a story or even a false story.

Although the maximum amount of information that can be given to the adoptive child due to the lack of information about the parents is the fact that it was left in an institution to be received by parents who could actually receive it and love She has that right!

Good Studies!

Answer 2

Foster parents are those people who acts as parent and guardian for a child in place of the child's natural parents but without legally adopting the child.